After my unhappy ending...

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Aerylle

...I've been doing a lot of thinking.

For those of you who followed my story, this is an update. For those who didn't read my story, here's the Readers Digest version: I didn't get a bid and was released on Pref Night.

Here's the update I promised:

I am investigating a service sorority on my campus (well, more than investigating, but that's a whole different story) as well as toying with the idea of going through a second time next fall (as well as checking or informal in the winter/spring).

Here's the question(s) that nearly always accompanies a post of mine:

1. Is it worth it? Going through Formal again. I know it differs by school but..
2. What can I change, or do differently/better next year?
3. I will be a sophomore next year so I know that'll be against me, but is there anything I can do to make myself stand out other than getting as good of a GPA as I can and joining some clubs (already on that!)

Any advice on girls who've gone through twice and had positive results would be fantastic!

1. Only you can determine if something is "worth it." You may or may not get a bid next year, but you have no chance at getting one if you don't go through. Depending on your school, upperclassmen in recruitment may not be as big of a deal as it is elsewhere.

2. To answer this question, you really do have to take a good look at yourself and examine why it is you think you didn't receive a bid. Example: did you have bad grades, were you not as outgoing as other PNMs, did you not present yourself well etc? Sometimes that takes some time to figure out and work on.

3. Again, that's something else to figure out on your own. For example: some people realize that all the other PNMs knew sorority members outside of recruitment, had recs, etc. and they didn't. So they set out to give themselves that advantage next year.

A good piece of advice is if you are a 2nd time PNM at a more competitive school, be sure to be open-minded. I find it funny when someone goes through a second time with only certain chapters that they will join. It almost never ends well.