Please Help! I just have questions...

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

No, no, I assume you're correct about bid acceptance!

Now just a question...when we filled out our Pref Night cards, would I have been able to NOT have signed it? Because I'm pretty sure I had to in order to put my choices in the computer...

Ranking your choices and signing that list basically says "I agree to accept a bid from ANY of the sororities on this list."

If you did not wish to accept a bid from any of those 3, you should not have put them on your list.

Example: If you knew you wouldn't take a bid from Tri Pi, the best thing to do would have been to leave them off.

However, I understand that many girls tend to feel like they HAVE to rank all 3. In reality, you should only rank all choices if you're willing to take a bid from ANY of them (not just one or two).

[vanityfair5]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Ranking your choices and signing that list basically says "I agree to accept a bid from ANY of the sororities on this list."

If you did not wish to accept a bid from any of those 3, you should not have put them on your list.

Example: If you knew you wouldn't take a bid from Tri Pi, the best thing to do would have been to leave them off.

However, I understand that many girls tend to feel like they HAVE to rank all 3. In reality, you should only rank all choices if you're willing to take a bid from ANY of them (not just one or two).

I didn't know this at the time! I wish I had!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

I didn't know this at the time! I wish I had!

Well really, it's water under the bridge at this point and there is nothing you can do about it now.

Concerning staying in Tri Pi and making the best of it, I suggest reading these 2 posts (and really that whole thread is good) Best of luck with your decision:


http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...&postcount=219

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...&postcount=220

[vanityfair5]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Well really, it's water under the bridge at this point and there is nothing you can do about it now.

Concerning staying in Tri Pi and making the best of it, I suggest reading these 2 posts (and really that whole thread is good) Best of luck with your decision:


http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...&postcount=219

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...&postcount=220

Thank you This helped. I think a big part of my doubt is that it seems EVERY girl in Tri Pi is SOOOO excited to be there (even since walking in the house on Bid Day) and I've felt like the odd one out.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

Thank you This helped. I think a big part of my doubt is that it seems EVERY girl in Tri Pi is SOOOO excited to be there (even since walking in the house on Bid Day) and I've felt like the odd one out.

Not every single girl is going to feel 100% happy the first week.

Don't panic.

Don't sulk.

Make a genuine effort to build relationships.

It takes time, but it can happen.

[FSUZeta]

you listed zbz first on your bid card. if they had listed you on their bid list, you would be a zbz now. because you heard they snap bidded people, meaning they had not reached quota, and they had spaces to fill, they undoubtedly did not think you would be a good fit for their chapter. it is unlikely that that will change next year.

your 2nd choice did want you-that's how you ended up with their bid. get to know them better and give them a chance. you can depledge the day of your initiation(before the ceremony) if you decide you need to, with no more consequences than if you quit today, but before you do, do yourself a favor and ask yourself if it is better to not be greek if you cannot be a zbz?

[VandalSquirrel]

I think you might slightly be sabotaging yourself with a self fulfilling prophecy, and not giving the sorority that wanted you as a sister a fair chance. Sure other women are OMFG TRI PI 'TIL I DIE but stop basing your expectations on how others are reacting and realize there isn't any magic kool aid passed around to feel this way. You can spend your time pining away for ZBZ (which you didn't get a bid to, for whatever reason, sometimes it just happens) or you can take that energy and use it on giving Tri Pi a chance.

What do you have to lose by accepting reality and not fantasy?

[Zillini]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

you listed zbz first on your bid card. if they had listed you on their bid list, you would be a zbz now. because you heard they snap bidded people, meaning they had not reached quota, and they had spaces to fill, they undoubtedly did not think you would be a good fit for their chapter. it is unlikely that that will change next year.

Actually if the OP put ZBZ #1 and ZBZ didn't make quota, the OP would have gotten a bid. Panhellenic wouldn't have gone to the OP's #2 choice until the #1 had reached quota. I suspect ZBZ snapped because some PNMs declined their bids. That or they weren't technically snap bids, but rather COR bids issued shortly after Bid Day because ZBZ was still below Total.

Regardless, OP you just weren't high enough on the ZBZ list to get a bid. That means they didn't want you as much as they wanted other PNMs. So even if the 1 year rule wasn't in place or if you suicided ZBZ, there is a lot of doubt that you would have gotten a bid from ZBZ anyways. I'm not trying to be hurtful or mean, that's just the reality of the situation.

You got a bid from girls that like and want you. I find it sad that you are willing to throw that away after only a week. From what you posted, your only real issue is that everyone else is "rah, rah, yeah Tri Pi!" and you're not. It's natural for you to feel let down, but I strongly suggest you give them more of a chance before making this major decision. By that I mean give them a real chance. Go hang out and get to know the sisters. Don't just show up when you have to for a meeting.

[twinkle555]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Ranking your choices and signing that list basically says "I agree to accept a bid from ANY of the sororities on this list."

If you did not wish to accept a bid from any of those 3, you should not have put them on your list.

Example: If you knew you wouldn't take a bid from Tri Pi, the best thing to do would have been to leave them off.

However, I understand that many girls tend to feel like they HAVE to rank all 3. In reality, you should only rank all choices if you're willing to take a bid from ANY of them (not just one or two).

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

I didn't know this at the time! I wish I had!

Circumstances like this hardly work out, chances are (just a guess, never really know of course) you would have gotten a bid to your third choice if you had left off Tri Pi.

Are you really realllllly trying to get to know everyone in Tri Pi? Or are you a closed door to them? Give them the chance they deserve. Open up to your new sisters, after all (hate to be so harsh here but...) Tri Pi wanted you, ZBZ did not.