Please Help! I just have questions...

[vanityfair5]

Have I truly accepted a bid, thou, if I haven't Pledged In?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

Have I truly accepted a bid, thou, if I haven't Pledged In?

Please correct me if I'm wrong:

If you've submitted a Pref card, received a bid at bid day, gone to Bid Day, and attended events, you have indeed accepted a bid.

This is why we tell girls not to sign if you are unsure because you lose the chance to rush for an entire year once you do so.

[vanityfair5]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Please correct me if I'm wrong:

If you've submitted a Pref card, received a bid at bid day, gone to Bid Day, and attended events, you have indeed accepted a bid.

This is why we tell girls not to sign if you are unsure because you lose the chance to rush for an entire year once you do so.

No, no, I assume you're correct about bid acceptance!

Now just a question...when we filled out our Pref Night cards, would I have been able to NOT have signed it? Because I'm pretty sure I had to in order to put my choices in the computer...

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

No, no, I assume you're correct about bid acceptance!

Now just a question...when we filled out our Pref Night cards, would I have been able to NOT have signed it? Because I'm pretty sure I had to in order to put my choices in the computer...

Ranking your choices and signing that list basically says "I agree to accept a bid from ANY of the sororities on this list."

If you did not wish to accept a bid from any of those 3, you should not have put them on your list.

Example: If you knew you wouldn't take a bid from Tri Pi, the best thing to do would have been to leave them off.

However, I understand that many girls tend to feel like they HAVE to rank all 3. In reality, you should only rank all choices if you're willing to take a bid from ANY of them (not just one or two).

[vanityfair5]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Ranking your choices and signing that list basically says "I agree to accept a bid from ANY of the sororities on this list."

If you did not wish to accept a bid from any of those 3, you should not have put them on your list.

Example: If you knew you wouldn't take a bid from Tri Pi, the best thing to do would have been to leave them off.

However, I understand that many girls tend to feel like they HAVE to rank all 3. In reality, you should only rank all choices if you're willing to take a bid from ANY of them (not just one or two).

I didn't know this at the time! I wish I had!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

I didn't know this at the time! I wish I had!

Well really, it's water under the bridge at this point and there is nothing you can do about it now.

Concerning staying in Tri Pi and making the best of it, I suggest reading these 2 posts (and really that whole thread is good) Best of luck with your decision:


http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...&postcount=219

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...&postcount=220

[vanityfair5]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Well really, it's water under the bridge at this point and there is nothing you can do about it now.

Concerning staying in Tri Pi and making the best of it, I suggest reading these 2 posts (and really that whole thread is good) Best of luck with your decision:


http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...&postcount=219

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...&postcount=220

Thank you This helped. I think a big part of my doubt is that it seems EVERY girl in Tri Pi is SOOOO excited to be there (even since walking in the house on Bid Day) and I've felt like the odd one out.

[twinkle555]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Ranking your choices and signing that list basically says "I agree to accept a bid from ANY of the sororities on this list."

If you did not wish to accept a bid from any of those 3, you should not have put them on your list.

Example: If you knew you wouldn't take a bid from Tri Pi, the best thing to do would have been to leave them off.

However, I understand that many girls tend to feel like they HAVE to rank all 3. In reality, you should only rank all choices if you're willing to take a bid from ANY of them (not just one or two).

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

I didn't know this at the time! I wish I had!

Circumstances like this hardly work out, chances are (just a guess, never really know of course) you would have gotten a bid to your third choice if you had left off Tri Pi.

Are you really realllllly trying to get to know everyone in Tri Pi? Or are you a closed door to them? Give them the chance they deserve. Open up to your new sisters, after all (hate to be so harsh here but...) Tri Pi wanted you, ZBZ did not.

[kddani]

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

Have I truly accepted a bid, thou, if I haven't Pledged In?

No idea of what this concept of "pledged in" is, but YES, you accepted a bid when you signed your bid card.

Give it time. It really takes a couple weeks to get to know people and find your place. You're stuck anyway (i.e. can't pledge anywhere else for a year), so why not try to make the best of it? You may be surprised.

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by kddani

No idea of what this concept of "pledged in" is, but YES, you accepted a bid when you signed your bid card.

Give it time. It really takes a couple weeks to get to know people and find your place. You're stuck anyway (i.e. can't pledge anywhere else for a year), so why not try to make the best of it? You may be surprised.

Sounds like she is referring to a formal Pinning or Pledging ceremony.

And to the OP, it takes time. I would say try the semster and if you really don't like it, leave before initiation.

[vanityfair5]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

Sounds like she is referring to a formal Pinning or Pledging ceremony.

And to the OP, it takes time. I would say try the semster and if you really don't like it, leave before initiation.

Leaving now over just before initiation doesn't give me any less time I have to wait, then? If I drop out now I have to wait just as long until I wait until before Initiation (which is late March/ early April)? Just want to check!

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

Leaving now over just before initiation doesn't give me any less time I have to wait, then? If I drop out now I have to wait just as long until I wait until before Initiation (which is late March/ early April)? Just want to check!

From my understanding yes. IIRC it is a calender year from when you accept your bid. so if you drop the day after bid day or the day before intation, you have the same wait. NPC feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.

[thetygerlily]

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

Leaving now over just before initiation doesn't give me any less time I have to wait, then? If I drop out now I have to wait just as long until I wait until before Initiation (which is late March/ early April)? Just want to check!

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

From my understanding yes. IIRC it is a calender year from when you accept your bid. so if you drop the day after bid day or the day before intation, you have the same wait. NPC feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.

No need, you're correct. It's one year, so the next time she would be eligible to try for "ZBZ" or any group other than "Tri Pi" is day 1 of formal recruitment next year.

vf, you are locked in regardless. If you absolutely know there is no way you can be happy in "Tri Pi", then drop now before they spend excess energy on you and get emotionally invested in you as their sister. But you must have seen something in them to have kept returning to their parties and to have listed them on your preference card. It's too late to change what you put on your pref card, but you can get to know these women better and give it an honest chance at becoming part of their sisterhood. They wanted you as a sister for a reason. Consider too that your sisterhood is for a lifetime, not just at that school. Consider what the local chapter has to offer you, what being Greek at your school has to offer, and what lifetime membership in "Tri Pi" brings. And, of course, there is no guarantee that "ZBZ" or any other group would give you a bid next year.

And in case you weren't sure, once you initiate you cannot join another NPC group. No matter what. Anywhere. Period.

Good luck.