Please Help! I just have questions...

[kddani]

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

Have I truly accepted a bid, thou, if I haven't Pledged In?

No idea of what this concept of "pledged in" is, but YES, you accepted a bid when you signed your bid card.

Give it time. It really takes a couple weeks to get to know people and find your place. You're stuck anyway (i.e. can't pledge anywhere else for a year), so why not try to make the best of it? You may be surprised.

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by kddani

No idea of what this concept of "pledged in" is, but YES, you accepted a bid when you signed your bid card.

Give it time. It really takes a couple weeks to get to know people and find your place. You're stuck anyway (i.e. can't pledge anywhere else for a year), so why not try to make the best of it? You may be surprised.

Sounds like she is referring to a formal Pinning or Pledging ceremony.

And to the OP, it takes time. I would say try the semster and if you really don't like it, leave before initiation.

[vanityfair5]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

Sounds like she is referring to a formal Pinning or Pledging ceremony.

And to the OP, it takes time. I would say try the semster and if you really don't like it, leave before initiation.

Leaving now over just before initiation doesn't give me any less time I have to wait, then? If I drop out now I have to wait just as long until I wait until before Initiation (which is late March/ early April)? Just want to check!

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

Leaving now over just before initiation doesn't give me any less time I have to wait, then? If I drop out now I have to wait just as long until I wait until before Initiation (which is late March/ early April)? Just want to check!

From my understanding yes. IIRC it is a calender year from when you accept your bid. so if you drop the day after bid day or the day before intation, you have the same wait. NPC feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.

[thetygerlily]

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

Leaving now over just before initiation doesn't give me any less time I have to wait, then? If I drop out now I have to wait just as long until I wait until before Initiation (which is late March/ early April)? Just want to check!

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

From my understanding yes. IIRC it is a calender year from when you accept your bid. so if you drop the day after bid day or the day before intation, you have the same wait. NPC feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.

No need, you're correct. It's one year, so the next time she would be eligible to try for "ZBZ" or any group other than "Tri Pi" is day 1 of formal recruitment next year.

vf, you are locked in regardless. If you absolutely know there is no way you can be happy in "Tri Pi", then drop now before they spend excess energy on you and get emotionally invested in you as their sister. But you must have seen something in them to have kept returning to their parties and to have listed them on your preference card. It's too late to change what you put on your pref card, but you can get to know these women better and give it an honest chance at becoming part of their sisterhood. They wanted you as a sister for a reason. Consider too that your sisterhood is for a lifetime, not just at that school. Consider what the local chapter has to offer you, what being Greek at your school has to offer, and what lifetime membership in "Tri Pi" brings. And, of course, there is no guarantee that "ZBZ" or any other group would give you a bid next year.

And in case you weren't sure, once you initiate you cannot join another NPC group. No matter what. Anywhere. Period.

Good luck.