Non-greek lavaliering a greek girlfriend

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Because the letters aren't theirs to give.

Though it could be argued that even for fraternity men the letters aren't theirs to give.

[BabyPiNK_FL]

My ex, who is in a fraternity, gave me my own letters after I got lavaliered by my big after about a year (as is chapter tradition) but with a gold one which is what I really wanted instead of the silver I got initially [cos that's what I deserved, yeah I said it].

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

Though it could be argued that even for fraternity men the letters aren't theirs to give.

I agree, and that's one reason why lavaliering for boyfriends and girlfriends is such a strange thing to me. I don't understand fraternity men "giving" their letters to a woman or "giving" a woman her own letters.

It makes more sense to me that there are organizations with designations and/or ceremonies for husbands and wives of members. I don't know if this involves the "giving" of any letters for some of these orgs.