Truth and your relationship

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Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

Just left it broad to simply let it go where ever it would go....but please feel free to tighten it up as needed....

ideas

- past lovers

- health issues

- family

-finances

You all can feel free to take your pick and go for it.

I know women (and men) say they want to know, but I don't think it's a good idea to disclose. Whether the number is high or low, it puts unnecessary pressure on the other party. The only reason I'd need to know about past lovers is if it's someone that is close to me (friend/relative) or if it encroaches on your present, i.e. STIs.

Health Issues (outside of STIs), it depends on what the issues are and where in the relationship you are. If you need a liver replacement for whatever reason, that isn't for me to know on the third date. But if we are approaching serious relationship, I'm calling you my man and vice versa, then that information needs to be shared.

Family, for me personally, it is one of my ultra private realms. Not everyone I date (and by date I mean going out/getting to know you phase, not boyfriend phase) is going to meet the family. I barely know you, so I'm definitely not going to bring you to all the family functions like we're a couple. In the same token family information (relationships/lack there of, issues, situations) are out of your pervue if we are just dating. As the relationship develops, then family introductions, information, etc. begin to happen.

Finances is the same as family. Only when we are nearing/in a relationship do we need to share intricacies of debt.