Disappointing recruitment--why wasn't I chosen?

[Titchou]

This just goes to show - it's not up to the campus to require or not require recs. It is up to the individual NPC group to determine that. It's great that your aunt wrote a rec - any member can do one and she definitely should have. Why haven't they called the chapter and asked why you were released? Why didn't the chapter adviser call and advise them they were releasing you? That's SOP for many groups...it is for mine.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Why haven't they called the chapter and asked why you were released? Why didn't the chapter adviser call and advise them they were releasing you? That's SOP for many groups...it is for mine.

Why would they (the relatives) call the chapter and ask why she was released? Isn't that a bit much?

And we don't know if the chapter called the mom or whoever (since depending on the organization she may not have been considered a legacy through her aunt). Even if they didn't, the chapter is not required to extend any more courtesies other than an invite after the first round.

[ComradesTrue]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Why haven't they called the chapter and asked why you were released?

Don't we usually flame/ridicule mommies who do this? What would the relative expect the chapter to say? I would not suggest this at all for any member.

Originally Posted by Titchou

Why didn't the chapter adviser call and advise them they were releasing you? That's SOP for many groups...it is for mine.

I do not believe that this is SOP for all groups. Once upon a time it was customary. Now there are too many legacies for the chapters to do all that work during an otherwise very busy week.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Blondie93

Don't we usually flame/ridicule mommies who do this? What would the relative expect the chapter to say? I would not suggest this at all for any member.

I find that half the time, anyone who is asking doesn't actually WANT to know. They typically are trying to get the chapter to somehow change their decision, or they are just looking for a messenger to "shoot" about the fact that their daughter got cut.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I find that half the time, anyone who is asking doesn't actually WANT to know. They typically are trying to get the chapter to somehow change their decision, or they are just looking for a messenger to "shoot" about the fact that their daughter got cut.

You can always use the "50 legacies, only 10 slots, etc, etc, etc"....