University of South Florida Rush 09!

[alphalove13]

Can't wait to read more of the story.

Lots of screaming! I have videos and pictures to post of the PNMs running to their homes and the IIX reveal.

USFRush who were your IIXs. I dont know which IIXs were in which group since when I was there I was "behind the scenes".

[USFrush09]

I PMed you Alphalove

[Lil_ChiO_Lady]

Waiting patiently for the GREAT NEWS!
...and since Virgo(my sign) may not be the right fit for you,then I switch to Scorpio which is my BF's sign,lol.

[USFrush09]

I hate to not finish my recruitment story, but I actually took my first post down. I kind of need some immediate advice from my GCers.

I got a bid yesterday and I spent some time getting to know my sisters. I feel as if something is missing deep down inside. I had a stronger connection in other houses and I feel as if this house is not the right fit for me. I'm a junior so that might of played a role as why it was so harsh on me. All of the girls in my sorority are nice -- of course, but my recruitment week has been stressful and overwhelming. During my recruitment week I saw myself in three other houses, this one really wasn't one of them.


I have decided to try it out for a couple of weeks (before initiation) and see how I will feel. I just feel guilty that I might of taken away a bid from someone else that might of really loved my sorority. I really don't even know if greek life is for me. Another factor is that right before recruitment started I had serious family issues. I am just confused right now and don't know where to turn.


Any advice is appreciated.

[baci]

It is too late to feel bad that you may have taken a bid away from another young lady. Erase that thought from your mind.

It is best that you give it your full effort and see how you feel for a few weeks. If at that point you feel the same way you should make a decision then.

It sounds to me like you are unsure and maybe you are pulling for reasons to quit when maybe in time you may not want to do so.

[CougarGrad]

^^ Agree ^^

You already got the bid. Give things a chance before you make your decision.

[jennyj87]

Please give it a chance. One of my girls dropped yesterday right after the bid day party and I think she would have done really well in the organizaiton.

Think of it this way, would you do speed dating (basically waht recruitment is), then decided to marry them right away? No. thats is what the new member period is for.

please please PLEASE give them a chance.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by USFrush09

I hate to not finish my recruitment story, but I actually took my first post down. I kind of need some immediate advice from my GCers.

I got a bid yesterday and I spent some time getting to know my sisters. I feel as if something is missing deep down inside. I had a stronger connection in other houses and I feel as if this house is not the right fit for me. I'm a junior so that might of played a role as why it was so harsh on me. All of the girls in my sorority are nice -- of course, but my recruitment week has been stressful and overwhelming. During my recruitment week I saw myself in three other houses, this one really wasn't one of them.

I have decided to try it out for a couple of weeks (before initiation) and see how I will feel. I just feel guilty that I might of taken away a bid from someone else that might of really loved my sorority. I really don't even know if greek life is for me. Another factor is that right before recruitment started I had serious family issues. I am just confused right now and don't know where to turn.

Any advice is appreciated.

Honestly, I don't understand how anyone can hang out for so long on Greekchat prior to recruitment, read the threads, share their tales of excitement and being "open minded" then come back here with something like this after bid day. I know I am being harsh, but seriously, these things are covered ad nauseum here on a daily basis.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by USFrush09

I have decided to try it out for a couple of weeks (before initiation) and see how I will feel. I just feel guilty that I might of taken away a bid from someone else that might of really loved my sorority. I really don't even know if greek life is for me. Another factor is that right before recruitment started I had serious family issues. I am just confused right now and don't know where to turn.

Any advice is appreciated.

You didn't take anyone's bid.

If you are having family issues, I'm sure that plays into it. Try to make this your away from that time - and don't hesitate to share with your new sisters. They may be more help than you could ever imagine. I would have spared myself and others a lot of hurt and pain if I would have opened my mouth and told my sisters about the friend and relationship problems I was having during my pledge time.

[FSUZeta]

this sorority saw you in their chapter-that is why they extended you a bid. they saw something in you that made them think"i'd like usfrush09 to be my sister".

many times people have a let down after the actual event is over. how many times have you been so excited for your birthday or Christmas or Hanukkah and have built up this great expectation of how wonderful it is going to be, only to ask yourself once it's over,"is that all"? you had a whirlwind week during recruitment, putting your best foot forward, were probably exhausted and feeling overwhelmed, all that anticipation is building and building and then bid day finally comes and it is slightly anticlimatic. give yourself time to adjust to this new experience. go over the the house and really get to know your sisters, participate in the activities and give them a chance to show you the real them. you really have nothing to lose.

[MaggieXi]

Recruitment is crazy. Get some rest, get back into a routine with school, get the family stuff straightened out and attend events and get to know the girls in the sorority in a non-recruitment environment before you make a decision.

Not really directed to you USFRush09, but to PNMs in general - PNMs come to gc all the time and complain that its not fair that the sorority gets to pass judgment on a PNM based on a series of 15 -30 minute parties. The opposite is also true - PNMs passing judgment on the sororities based on a series of 15 -30 minute conversations. There are some sororities who simply do not shine during recruitment, it doesn't make them a bad group. Its just something that they may not be as good at as other chapters at that campus. They should be celebrated for the things that they are good at.

[Katmandu]

It is not uncommon for women who receive a bid to their first choice sorority to feel a let down after recruitment. You are tired, you have been running on adrenaline (as have the actives) for the past few days, you got cut from some chapters you really liked and you have family issues. It is no wonder you feel a bit out of sync.

Throw yourself into the chapter's new member activities. Do not hold yourself aloof, but be proactive in getting to know everyone. Keep in mind that your sorority experience as an active will be for less than two academic years. Your sorority experience as an alumna will be many decades and can be even more rewarding than your time as an active, believe it or not! All of the organizations offer wonderful opportunities for growth and friendship.

Get some sleep, trust the members to know who fits well into their chapter and who doesn't. They want you, so give them a chance. Get some sleep and good luck!

[Benzgirl]

Originally Posted by Katmandu

It is not uncommon for women who receive a bid to their first choice sorority to feel a let down after recruitment. You are tired, you have been running on adrenaline (as have the actives) for the past few days, you got cut from some chapters you really liked and you have family issues. It is no wonder you feel a bit out of sync.

Throw yourself into the chapter's new member activities. Do not hold yourself aloof, but be proactive in getting to know everyone. Keep in mind that your sorority experience as an active will be for less than two academic years. Your sorority experience as an alumna will be many decades and can be even more rewarding than your time as an active, believe it or not! All of the organizations offer wonderful opportunities for growth and friendship.

Get some sleep, trust the members to know who fits well into their chapter and who doesn't. They want you, so give them a chance. Get some sleep and good luck!

^^^ What she said. I received my first choice, but when I was signing my Pref Card, it was a toss-up between 2 chapters for 1 and 2 (#3 was a definite #3). I ended up choosing my #1 for many reasons, but would have also been happy at #2.

During the first few weeks, I was full of self-doubt wondering if I had made the right choice. Knowing there was a choice of sticking it out or never pledging, I took the former and was elected to an office of my pledge class. By the end of the quarter, I moved into the house and never had another doubt in my mind.

Those girls that I met during Rush (this was a while ago), became friends but I made even better friends in while living in the house with people with whom I would have never met had I joined #2. If nothing else, stick it out and make some new friends. It's all part of the college experience.

[Bella796]

Originally Posted by USFrush09

I hate to not finish my recruitment story, but I actually took my first post down. I kind of need some immediate advice from my GCers.

I got a bid yesterday and I spent some time getting to know my sisters. I feel as if something is missing deep down inside. I had a stronger connection in other houses and I feel as if this house is not the right fit for me. I'm a junior so that might of played a role as why it was so harsh on me. All of the girls in my sorority are nice -- of course, but my recruitment week has been stressful and overwhelming. During my recruitment week I saw myself in three other houses, this one really wasn't one of them.


I have decided to try it out for a couple of weeks (before initiation) and see how I will feel. I just feel guilty that I might of taken away a bid from someone else that might of really loved my sorority. I really don't even know if greek life is for me. Another factor is that right before recruitment started I had serious family issues. I am just confused right now and don't know where to turn.


Any advice is appreciated.

I think that it's good that you try it out. I know plenty of girls who were weary about where they received bids but in the end became an integral part of the sorority.
I know for me when I was in college I was very sick and had to have two emergency surgeries to save my life. My parents couldn't stay the whole time I was in hospital and my sister's made sure that everyday a group of sister's visited. It was their support and love that helped me.
My advice is to attend all the new member functions, most houses have a ton of events and meetings. My last bit of advice is that what you put into your sorority is what you are going to get out of it.
If you feel that in a couple of weeks that this is not the place for you then by all means do what is best. I just know from my experiences that when you are going through something hard it is imperative to have a support system and you will probably find some sister's that will help you during this time.

Hope I helped.

Just take it one day at a time.

[KSUViolet06]

This thread is a really good read:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ghlight=choice