University of South Florida Rush 09!

[USFrush09]

I hate to not finish my recruitment story, but I actually took my first post down. I kind of need some immediate advice from my GCers.

I got a bid yesterday and I spent some time getting to know my sisters. I feel as if something is missing deep down inside. I had a stronger connection in other houses and I feel as if this house is not the right fit for me. I'm a junior so that might of played a role as why it was so harsh on me. All of the girls in my sorority are nice -- of course, but my recruitment week has been stressful and overwhelming. During my recruitment week I saw myself in three other houses, this one really wasn't one of them.


I have decided to try it out for a couple of weeks (before initiation) and see how I will feel. I just feel guilty that I might of taken away a bid from someone else that might of really loved my sorority. I really don't even know if greek life is for me. Another factor is that right before recruitment started I had serious family issues. I am just confused right now and don't know where to turn.


Any advice is appreciated.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by USFrush09

I hate to not finish my recruitment story, but I actually took my first post down. I kind of need some immediate advice from my GCers.

I got a bid yesterday and I spent some time getting to know my sisters. I feel as if something is missing deep down inside. I had a stronger connection in other houses and I feel as if this house is not the right fit for me. I'm a junior so that might of played a role as why it was so harsh on me. All of the girls in my sorority are nice -- of course, but my recruitment week has been stressful and overwhelming. During my recruitment week I saw myself in three other houses, this one really wasn't one of them.

I have decided to try it out for a couple of weeks (before initiation) and see how I will feel. I just feel guilty that I might of taken away a bid from someone else that might of really loved my sorority. I really don't even know if greek life is for me. Another factor is that right before recruitment started I had serious family issues. I am just confused right now and don't know where to turn.

Any advice is appreciated.

Honestly, I don't understand how anyone can hang out for so long on Greekchat prior to recruitment, read the threads, share their tales of excitement and being "open minded" then come back here with something like this after bid day. I know I am being harsh, but seriously, these things are covered ad nauseum here on a daily basis.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by USFrush09

I have decided to try it out for a couple of weeks (before initiation) and see how I will feel. I just feel guilty that I might of taken away a bid from someone else that might of really loved my sorority. I really don't even know if greek life is for me. Another factor is that right before recruitment started I had serious family issues. I am just confused right now and don't know where to turn.

Any advice is appreciated.

You didn't take anyone's bid.

If you are having family issues, I'm sure that plays into it. Try to make this your away from that time - and don't hesitate to share with your new sisters. They may be more help than you could ever imagine. I would have spared myself and others a lot of hurt and pain if I would have opened my mouth and told my sisters about the friend and relationship problems I was having during my pledge time.

[Bella796]

Originally Posted by USFrush09

I hate to not finish my recruitment story, but I actually took my first post down. I kind of need some immediate advice from my GCers.

I got a bid yesterday and I spent some time getting to know my sisters. I feel as if something is missing deep down inside. I had a stronger connection in other houses and I feel as if this house is not the right fit for me. I'm a junior so that might of played a role as why it was so harsh on me. All of the girls in my sorority are nice -- of course, but my recruitment week has been stressful and overwhelming. During my recruitment week I saw myself in three other houses, this one really wasn't one of them.


I have decided to try it out for a couple of weeks (before initiation) and see how I will feel. I just feel guilty that I might of taken away a bid from someone else that might of really loved my sorority. I really don't even know if greek life is for me. Another factor is that right before recruitment started I had serious family issues. I am just confused right now and don't know where to turn.


Any advice is appreciated.

I think that it's good that you try it out. I know plenty of girls who were weary about where they received bids but in the end became an integral part of the sorority.
I know for me when I was in college I was very sick and had to have two emergency surgeries to save my life. My parents couldn't stay the whole time I was in hospital and my sister's made sure that everyday a group of sister's visited. It was their support and love that helped me.
My advice is to attend all the new member functions, most houses have a ton of events and meetings. My last bit of advice is that what you put into your sorority is what you are going to get out of it.
If you feel that in a couple of weeks that this is not the place for you then by all means do what is best. I just know from my experiences that when you are going through something hard it is imperative to have a support system and you will probably find some sister's that will help you during this time.

Hope I helped.

Just take it one day at a time.

[KSUViolet06]

This thread is a really good read:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ghlight=choice

[twinkle555]

I agree with the above posts, stick it out for a bit...

[USFrush09]

Day 3. Sisterhood Day.

I got cut by Scorpio and Gemini.

I was really heartbroken at this point because I loved Gemini, but I still had another sorority which I loved as well, Virgo. So I kept my hopes up that I would be seeing Virgo on my list tomorrow. I had an idea why Gemini cut me. I kept thinking about “what if I said this instead of that” but there is no turning back now. I think my ΠΧ saw that I was a little disappointed but I got invited back to Capricorn, Sagittarius, and Virgo.

Capricorn – Since this was my first house, I wasn’t thrilled especially since the last two days of recruitment wasn’t that great. As soon as their doors opened, I remembered them having the cutest outfits and again, I think they were the loudest as far as chanting goes. My ears were ringing! Anyways, I talked to quite a few Capricorns and I think this day was the best out of all the FR days and my thoughts about them completely changed. I enjoyed talking about bigs and littles and what Capricorn meant to them. The president then made a speech about Capricorn and how she couldn’t imagine being without her sisters. At that point, it really hit my heart. I felt myself getting emotional. They started playing a video for all the PNMs to watch. There was pictures of Capricorn’s laughing, at sports events, philanthropy events, socials, Capricorn’s hugging and while the video was playing the Capricorn’s were all screaming “woo hoooo” “Yayaaa!” “Awww….” I actually enjoyed it, some sisters started tearing up. When I saw this I did too… and eventually started crying. After the video, the president personally handed me some tissues and kneeled down and asked me if I was okay. I told her I was and then began telling my rusher that I can just tell that this sisterhood is strong and that is something I’ve always wanted. It was time to go and I really didn’t want to leave.


Sagittarius –This was my next house and I was just blown away by Capricorn’s video, the president’s speech, and the members had such a big influence on me that I thought that Sagittarius wouldn’t compare to Capricorn. When I walked in, I started talking to many members of Sagittarius and during the time I was talking to everyone, at least 3 girls came up to me and told me how happy they are to see me here and 1 girl waved hi to me. I felt like I was wanted and since I do like attention… having so many girls come up to me saying how happy they are to see me and how they remembered me just made me feel so so happy inside. I noticed that my conversations with the members of Sagittarius was so natural and I enjoyed them. They also showed a video, but I didn’t cry to it. lol

Virgo – I only talked to 2 rushers I believe and both of them were sweethearts. They told me how much Virgo meant to them, their favorite memories, how their AC broke and they were sweating their butts off lol. It WAS really hot in there lol. The president made a speech about Virgo and her sisters and then we watched a video. This video also made me cry. I think it was the combination of the music and the photos, they did a really good job with it. I told my rusher that I don’t cry easily (and it’s true) and seeing other sisters cry makes me so emotional, I really don’t know why! Lol. Their president said farewell to us and she cracked some jokes which made us laugh.

We are only allowed to be invited to 2 sororities on Pref Day and my decision was tough, especially between Sagittarius and Capricorn. I was so torn between these two. So I based my rankings from today and the past 2 days.

1.Virgo
1.Sagittarius
2.Capricorn