advice for PNM please!

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by lovedbyloving

Thank you guys so much, this has been really helpful.
I'm currently emailing every single female teacher I had in highschool to see if they were greek.

Teachers are a great place to start! There are other people you could ask too. Don't forget:

Older friends from HS
Friends of your older siblings
Older siblings of your friends
Parents' friends
Friends' moms
Coworkers/bosses
women from your place of worship
coaches/activity sponsors/school staff

Remember that when you find one Greek, she (or he!) will almost certainly know other Greeks. This applies to fraternity men, as well as sorority women who are in a sorority not at your school. Double check with your rec writers to see if they know alumnae from other sororities.

Do keep digging. It's good that you have "weeks" instead of "days".

[lovedbyloving]

so i just reread the entire thread and i'd like to apologize to everyone.
i said that i felt like some of you were being rude because i got defensive.
i came here to ask for advice from people who know more than i do and that's exactly what i got. it just wasn't what i was hoping to hear.
forgive me for acting the way i did.

i'm not having much luck securing more recs, but i am doing everything that i can. i've emailed all my old highschool teachers and am asking literally everyone i know. hopefully i will come upon some luck soon.

thanks everyone for the advice. it has truly made me think about the mindset i was going into rush with and i now hope that i can change it and will be able to ACTUALLY go into it with an open mind instead of just saying i am.

thanks and i'm sorry again.

also i have a thought about what someone said about sending in college grades.
my highschool transcript isn't terribly impressive, but i worked really hard my first semester at college and made a really good gpa. i feel like my college transcript is going to save me during rush! i'm glad i gave myself that opportunity to show everyone that i'm a serious student.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by lovedbyloving

i'm not having much luck securing more recs, but i am doing everything that i can. i've emailed all my old highschool teachers and am asking literally everyone i know. hopefully i will come upon some luck soon.

thanks everyone for the advice. it has truly made me think about the mindset i was going into rush with and i now hope that i can change it and will be able to ACTUALLY go into it with an open mind instead of just saying i am.

thanks and i'm sorry again.

also i have a thought about what someone said about sending in college grades.
my highschool transcript isn't terribly impressive, but i worked really hard my first semester at college and made a really good gpa. i feel like my college transcript is going to save me during rush! i'm glad i gave myself that opportunity to show everyone that i'm a serious student.

No need to apologize.

Something I wanted to note though, is that depending on where you go to school, your college GPA may not make up for your lack of recs. There are certain schools where 99% of the girls have great GPAs and multiples recs per chapter. It is tough, but some places, recs are really important.

It's August though and there may not be a whole lot you can do about lacking recs at this point. Keep trying and if you don't get them all you just have to do the best you can see what happens.

[lovedbyloving]

i think i may have found the jackpot for recs.
my best friend from highschool's older sister is president of her house at a different school. i know she knows a lot of people in different sororities and i've known her since i was a kid so i think she'll be able to help me out.
hopefully this is good news for me.

yay

another note...
are there any other pnms out there that are as nervous about rush as i am? getting more recs (keep your fingers crossed) will help calm my nerves but i'm still super nervous and i don't even know why. anyone else feeling like this?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by lovedbyloving

are there any other pnms out there that are as nervous about rush as i am? getting more recs (keep your fingers crossed) will help calm my nerves but i'm still super nervous and i don't even know why. anyone else feeling like this?

I think MOST PNMs are nervous (even if just a little) about recruitment around this time. It's perfectly normal.