advice for PNM please!

[littleowl33]

Originally Posted by lovedbyloving

My understanding is when I get to each house on the first day, I'll be paired with an active who will teach me about the sorority and ask me questions and all that jazz. If I'm in a house and know another girl in there, is it okay to go up and say hi? Or am I supposed to stick with the girl I'm assigned to the entire time?

She might pick you up! Often a sorority will try to pair girls who know each other to make the PNM feel more comfortable. But that may not be the case, and certainly won't be the case for all rounds. When you're with another active, it's fine to mention that you're friends with the other sister - just don't make it sound too name-droppy. DO NOT run off to go say hi - there's nothing more frustrating for active than a runaway PNM who you have to corrall back into your area. The suster with you has been told to stay with you at all times. Also, it's rude to walk way from your hostess. The sister you're with may take you over to say hi, but you should only be going over there if your hostess takes the lead. The other sister is probably on a rotation and may not be able to chat with you without disrupting the pattern. It's nothing personal. You'll probably be switched around to a few different sisters during the party, so you may get to chat with her later - but again, if you don't get to, it's not because she's avoiding you - she's just in another rotation.

ETA: By "another girl" I assume you mean another sister. If you mean a PNM - no, you should not be going to talk to your friend during the party. It's rude and you should be focusing on learning about the sorority and making a good impression, not chatting with other PNMs.

[lovespink88]

Originally Posted by littleowl33

She might pick you up! Often a sorority will try to pair girls who know each other to make the PNM feel more comfortable. But that may not be the case, and certainly won't be the case for all rounds. When you're with another active, it's fine to mention that you're friends with the other sister - just don't make it sound too name-droppy. DO NOT run off to go say hi - there's nothing more frustrating for active than a runaway PNM who you have to corrall back into your area. The suster with you has been told to stay with you at all times. Also, it's rude to walk way from your hostess. The sister you're with may take you over to say hi, but you should only be going over there if your hostess takes the lead. The other sister is probably on a rotation and may not be able to chat with you without disrupting the pattern. It's nothing personal. You'll probably be switched around to a few different sisters during the party, so you may get to chat with her later - but again, if you don't get to, it's not because she's avoiding you - she's just in another rotation.

Agreed. Someone please correct me if I'm wrong, because I know these things can vary from school to school, but it's likely that the active who picks you up will direct you to a place to sit where you guys will chat for a bit, and you'll probably stay at that spot the whole time. You really don't do much "mingling" within the party, so you're not going to have the opportunity to walk away and say hi to someone. The actives are the ones that do the "mingling".

Again, that's how they do it at my school, and I'm under the impression that's how it as at most schools, but correct me if I'm wrong!