Am I psychotic or is this normal?

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

Acting crazy is debatable. Many people are led to believe they are in relationships (or there is a lack of definition and honesty, omission if you will), which then causes feelings to be hurt, and the result is "acting crazy." I personally wouldn't want to date a guy who wasn't 100% about me, but I'm pretty independent and really enjoy my own company as well as that of my friends.

I think this is the issue. People don't talk anymore...it's like, either be my boyfriend or be gone. Our generation does this whole "vague" relationship bullshit that doesn't help anyone. Folks get attached, feelings get hurt.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I think this is the issue. People don't talk anymore...it's like, either be my boyfriend or be gone. Our generation does this whole "vague" relationship bullshit that doesn't help anyone. Folks get attached, feelings get hurt.

Truth.

[James]

I think its the whole: "Lets hang out" mentality. I'll pick you up at 8 and take you to dinner has been replaced with , meet me here. Or, come over.

It leaves even the guys in limbo as to what the heck is going on. We hesitate, lose the lead, and fumble it.

Assuming the guy knows how to lead at all.

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I think this is the issue. People don't talk anymore...it's like, either be my boyfriend or be gone. Our generation does this whole "vague" relationship bullshit that doesn't help anyone. Folks get attached, feelings get hurt.

Originally Posted by James

I think its the whole: "Lets hang out" mentality. I'll pick you up at 8 and take you to dinner has been replaced with , meet me here. Or, come over.

It leaves even the guys in limbo as to what the heck is going on. We hesitate, lose the lead, and fumble it.

Assuming the guy knows how to lead at all.

Holy toledo, Batman. Where the hell have you been, James?

[James]

Hey gorgeous .

I have been playing with more real world toys/people rather than my imaginary (so to speak) friends on the internet.

So I have been a lot more passive on greekchat because of time constraints. And also, a lot of us are already talked out on topics

Originally Posted by OTW

Holy toledo, Batman. Where the hell have you been, James?

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I think this is the issue. People don't talk anymore...it's like, either be my boyfriend or be gone. Our generation does this whole "vague" relationship bullshit that doesn't help anyone. Folks get attached, feelings get hurt.

Are you referring to the whole "Friends with benefits" thing? It's something I do not understand about your generation. In my view, the difference between "friend" and "boyfriend" was about sexual involvement. If you are good friends and there is a sexual attraction, then, to me, that's a romantic attraction. Part of me can't help but wonder if, in these "friends with benefits" relationships, one of the partners wants it to be a committed romantic relationship and believes that eventually, the other one will "wake up" and realize that they should be in a relationship. I do think that tends to be the female, but I've met some dependent men who would do anything just to stay part of the person's life too.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by AGDee

Part of me can't help but wonder if, in these "friends with benefits" relationships, one of the partners wants it to be a committed romantic relationship and believes that eventually, the other one will "wake up" and realize that they should be in a relationship.

And usually when one or the other wakes up and wants to be in a relationship, it's usually not with their FWB.

...Heh!

[James]

Still with this girl?

[PiKA2001]

Originally Posted by James

Still with this girl?

No, she dumped me a few weeks ago. It was weird too. We where going to meet her parents for dinner one night when she texted me that she was having a bad day at work, and if I wanted to stay over her apt that night. I told her yes and that I hope her day turns out better.....and that was it. She never called me again or answered my texts. I texted her with a "let me know your ok" thing and she replied with:

I'm worried this isn't going to work out

me: what is going on with you?

her: don't have time to discuss or argue it. We should go our own ways.

WTF? we are seeing each other for four months and you break up over text? Not even have the decency to tell me to my face or call me?

There was no catalyst either. She went from," I can't wait to see you, stay the night over after dinner" to i never want to talk to you again in a snap. When I went over all the details with what happened to my friends, they all said the same thing. She was seeing someone else, and chose him over you .

[AOII_LB93]

Originally Posted by PiKA2001

No, she dumped me a few weeks ago. It was weird too. We where going to meet her parents for dinner one night when she texted me that she was having a bad day at work, and if I wanted to stay over her apt that night. I told her yes and that I hope her day turns out better.....and that was it. She never called me again or answered my texts. I texted her with a "let me know your ok" thing and she replied with:

I'm worried this isn't going to work out

me: what is going on with you?

her: don't have time to discuss or argue it. We should go our own ways.

WTF? we are seeing each other for four months and you break up over text? Not even have the decency to tell me to my face or call me?

There was no catalyst either. She went from," I can't wait to see you, stay the night over after dinner" to i never want to talk to you again in a snap. When I went over all the details with what happened to my friends, they all said the same thing. She was seeing someone else, and chose him over you .

WTF? Wow....what a bitch. Why not just use a post-it? Women are crazy.

I also agree that she was seeing/met someone new.

[epchick]

Originally Posted by PiKA2001

No, she dumped me a few weeks ago.

If she lives here, let me know who it is. I'll track her down and beat the crap outta her. lol.