Am I psychotic or is this normal?

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

Acting crazy is debatable. Many people are led to believe they are in relationships (or there is a lack of definition and honesty, omission if you will), which then causes feelings to be hurt, and the result is "acting crazy."

That's an excellent thread topic in itself.

I am hesitant of men who have "crazy exes," especially more than one. It almost always means that they are crazy themselves and have done something to either lead a woman on or to encourage crazy behavior.

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

That's an excellent thread topic in itself.

I am hesitant of men who have "crazy exes," especially more than one. It almost always means that they are crazy themselves and have done something to either lead a woman on or to encourage crazy behavior.

Exactly, I've had some previous relationships with similarities (the guys were alcoholics, didn't meet any of them in bars or even when booze was around) and I don't know why that was, other than I have a caring and loving personality, which led me to stay longer than I should have. I am sure some facet of my personality attracts men with that to me, and they aren't bad people, but they have a huge struggle that I haven't experienced. I left when they decided to not get help for themselves as any conditions or ultimatums would have led to disappointments. If they, and only they, made the choice to get help, I'd stand by their side 100% and reconsider a relationship.

I do have one ex who I fully believe needs therapy (no physical addictions), and when he refused to attend couples counseling sessions I decided the relationship wasn't worth it to me. My theory was what he was so scared of and was the real issue with him would be addressed if he went. He tried to paint me as crazy but it failed, miserably, to the point it made him look guano. He kept flaking out on our sessions, making plans with me and disappearing, and when I said "no more of this, I am done, have a nice life" he created a lot of problems for me.

[PeppyGPhiB]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

That's an excellent thread topic in itself.

I am hesitant of men who have "crazy exes," especially more than one. It almost always means that they are crazy themselves and have done something to either lead a woman on or to encourage crazy behavior.

This is so true. It's such a red flag to me when a guy accuses his exes of being "crazy" or "psycho" or "bipolar." It doesn't take long to put two and two together.

I missed this thread the first go-around, so with that said, here's my take. I disagree with almost everyone in this thread, except 33girl. I don't think the OP really likes her, I think he'd just rather have her around than no one at all. All of you who are coming up with excuses are overanalyzing, the way waaaaaaaaay too many women do. Notice that no men in here are making excuses for why he really DOES like her. He even said he dosen't like her! Think about how much you have to be iffy on someone before you'll come to a message board and tell a bunch of strangers that you don't like the woman you're in a relationship with. Look, my boyfriend and I have differences, but I can sure tell you all kinds of things I like about him. I have to have more than a "feeling" to be with someone, especially the conversation part...how long can you go without talking to someone? That would drive me crazy, and I would think it would seriously limit the relationship's potential. Chances are the reason the two of you can't have a conversation is because you're either not comfortable with each other or you don't trust each other.

[LΩVE]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

This is so true. It's such a red flag to me when a guy accuses his exes of being "crazy" or "psycho" or "bipolar." It doesn't take long to put two and two together.

I missed this thread the first go-around, so with that said, here's my take. I disagree with almost everyone in this thread, except 33girl. I don't think the OP really likes her, I think he'd just rather have her around than no one at all. All of you who are coming up with excuses are overanalyzing, the way waaaaaaaaay too many women do. Notice that no men in here are making excuses for why he really DOES like her. He even said he dosen't like her! Think about how much you have to be iffy on someone before you'll come to a message board and tell a bunch of strangers that you don't like the woman you're in a relationship with. Look, my boyfriend and I have differences, but I can sure tell you all kinds of things I like about him. I have to have more than a "feeling" to be with someone, especially the conversation part...how long can you go without talking to someone? That would drive me crazy, and I would think it would seriously limit the relationship's potential. Chances are the reason the two of you can't have a conversation is because you're either not comfortable with each other or you don't trust each other.

Amen to the first part. I learned that the hard way during my young and impressionable stage when I dated an older guy that told me his ex's were all crazy. It didn't take more than a couple of months to see why. Some guys enjoy the attention and will cat and mouse a girl who really does like them until they go nuts.