graduate sorority question

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by wannab1ofu

for the last two years i have attended many events for membership in a certain graduate level sorority. i will attend events make contacts and then nothing. recently i was sent an invite for yet another fundraiser from a member of the chapter and i am unsure of whether or not i sholud continue to buy tickets to these events if nothing ever becomes of these meetings but an occ email or phone call. I do not know any member fully, but it seems as if grad chapters are more into getting funds than adding quality members. any advice?

I don't understand how you can have attended "many events" and not yet "know any member" well. Without knowing anything more than you have posted, I would suggest connecting with the members on some level beyond "attending". Participating and having converstations is a great way to start. How can you expect to be invited to be a member of any organization that requires a membership process, if no one knows you?

It's up to YOU to try to get to know people in this situation, not the other way around.

Lastly, if I am correct, this post should be in a different forum. I only replied bc it's in a general forum.

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

I don't understand how you can have attended "many events" and not yet "know any member" well. Without knowing anything more than you have posted, I would suggest connecting with the members on some level beyond "attending". Participating and having converstations is a great way to start. How can you expect to be invited to be a member of any organization that requires a membership process, if no one knows you?

It's up to YOU to try to get to know people in this situation, not the other way around.

Lastly, if I am correct, this post should be in a different forum. I only replied bc it's in a general forum.

If she thinks she can buy her way into membership by attending these events, more power to her.

[XSK_Diamond]

ETA: I don't know if the following applies to the OP, but very generally speaking...

In some sororities, AI is by invitation only (no application process) and "discretion" is mandated. The only acceptable way a woman can show her interest is by attending events the sorority sponsors, and trying to get to know current graduate members in the hopes of them liking her enough to extend her an invitation to join. Sometimes these events require the purchase of a ticket to attend.

The way it's set up, it looks like an interested woman is trying to buy her way into membership, but the reality is buying an event ticket and "mingling" to make contacts is the only acceptable way that woman can show her interest at this level. AI hopefuls, who don't already have contacts, have no other choice but to do it this way.

Originally Posted by OTW

If she thinks she can buy her way into membership by attending these events, more power to her.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by XSK_Diamond

In some sororities, AI is by invitation only (no application process) and "discretion" is mandated. The only acceptable way a woman can show her interest is by attending events the sorority sponsors, and trying to get to know current graduate members in the hopes of them liking her enough to extend her an invitation to join. Sometimes these events (it seems like in her case, all the events) require the purchase of a ticket to attend.

The way it's set up, it looks like she's trying to buy her way into membership, but the reality is buying an event ticket and "mingling" to make contacts is the only acceptable way she can show her interest at this level. AI hopefuls, who don't already have contacts, have no other choice but to do what the OP did.

That's not what the OP said.

[XSK_Diamond]

I wasn't responding to the OP. I was responding to OTW's comment that the OP was trying to buy her way into membership of the org she's interested in. I don't know (and wouldn't comment specifically even if I did because I'm not a member) which sorority the OP was talking about. That's why I wrote "some sororities" in my reply to OTW.

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

That's not what the OP said.

[XSK_Diamond]

I went back and made it clear I was giving general info and not assuming anything on the OP's part. That should quell any potential for misunderstanding my post.

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

That's not what the OP said.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by XSK_Diamond

In some sororities, AI is by invitation only (no application process) and "discretion" is mandated. The only acceptable way a woman can show her interest is by attending events the sorority sponsors, and trying to get to know current graduate members in the hopes of them liking her enough to extend her an invitation to join. Sometimes these events require the purchase of a ticket to attend.

The way it's set up, it looks like an interested woman is trying to buy her way into membership, but the reality is buying an event ticket and "mingling" to make contacts is the only acceptable way that woman can show her interest at this level. AI hopefuls, who don't already have contacts, have no other choice but to do it this way.

I don't think we should be throwing around the term "AI" for NPHC membership (which is obviously what the OP is pursuing) as it, well, really is not the same thing as AI as being discussed on here. It is graduate chapter intake.

[XSK_Diamond]

It's still the same thing, and I'm not going to split hairs because the OP didn't say for sure what she was pursuing so nobody really knows (ahem). She posted in the AI thread, so I'm following her lead. It's not as deep as you're making it.

Originally Posted by 33girl

I don't think we should be throwing around the term "AI" for NPHC membership (which is obviously what the OP is pursuing) as it, well, really is not the same thing as AI as being discussed on here. It is graduate chapter intake.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by XSK_Diamond

It's not as deep as you're making it.

Actually, yes, it is. AI into an NPC chapter and graduate chapter intake into an NPHC chapter are NOT the same thing.

[XSK_Diamond]

I was using the term AI in its most general sense; that of a college graduate pursuing membership in a GLO. The differences between NPC and NPHC graduate/alumnae recruitment are not important to me, but your clarification may help someone else.

Originally Posted by 33girl

Actually, yes, it is. AI into an NPC chapter and graduate chapter intake into an NPHC chapter are NOT the same thing.

[trummaNupe]

I feel you must be diligent in your pursuit of becoming a member, just attending events and not making your intention knows are a waste of your time,However, you may not be a social butterfly- just make an attempt to connect with someone and let your desires be known.....i hope i was able to give you some sound advice. Again, good luck in your endeavor.

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[XSK_Diamond]

What if the OP really has been making an honest effort to get to know these women but they aren't reciprocating? She can't make anyone be friendly in return or like her, and if she pushes too much that would work against her. At what point should someone in her situation cut their losses and walk away?

Just curious to know, if you don't mind enlightening me.

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

I don't understand how you can have attended "many events" and not yet "know any member" well. Without knowing anything more than you have posted, I would suggest connecting with the members on some level beyond "attending". Participating and having converstations is a great way to start. How can you expect to be invited to be a member of any organization that requires a membership process, if no one knows you?

It's up to YOU to try to get to know people in this situation, not the other way around.

Lastly, if I am correct, this post should be in a different forum. I only replied bc it's in a general forum.

[ThetaPrincess24]

Well if she keeps paying to go to events to no avail, maybe she should stop paying to go. She may be partially to blame, but I wonder if the chapter is using her because they know she will pay to attend.