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Snake is a Sigma Nu snake.
It's not my daughter, it's my goddaughter (fraternity brother's daughter, I have only sons, though, so I guess I treat her almost as mine)
War analogy was a little harsh, I apologize - I'm a guy, that's how we talk!
The 12 choices I referred to were for her first round of cuts, she received 10 return invites for Round 2 and went to all 10. Yes, I am sure that she had SOME preconceived notions as everyone does. I would even add that the sororities themselves have them, how else could the first couple of cut rounds be done with so little interaction? Seven sororities cut her after a ten minute conversation. Did they have a totally open mind, maximizing their options? Let's not condemn a PNM for what we support on the Sorority side.
I do believe that she went into things with an open mind. I will say that she was thrilled with the visits she had and felt welcomed at all houses as well. That is why only one invite back the next morning (3rd round) hit her so hard. She did gather herself up and go to that house on Saturday but was called Saturday night and released.
For those of you that asked, she did not rush as a freshman since both her Mom & Dad had pledged as Sophomores and had no problems (also at UGA but many moons ago). Their feeling was that you should get your feet on the ground and then rush. When she got to school, she did realize that it was a potential negative and she worked very hard to make sure that she did everything "right" this fall.
The system worked at the macro level. All you have to do is look at the hundreds/thousands of smiling faces this week in Athens. All I'm saying is that, from my perspective, a bias against upperclassmen might have played a significant part in this story and I was curious if that was true. Maybe it did, maybe it didn't, I accept we will never know. I must say after reading some of the responses, however, that I would be careful to not blindly and unquestioningly support a system that is primarily defended by blaming and/or casting doubts about a fine young lady. Life is not fair but that doesn't mean we quit trying to make it fairer and better. For now that is not my fight, I have sons.
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