Depression in the Greek system?

[Kevin]

I always get a bad taste in my mouth when members or former members want to air what happened between them and their judicial officers in a public forum.

There are two sides to every story and we're only getting one.

What goes on between you and your judicial officers should stay between you and your judicial officers.

That said, every group has proper methods for the expulsion of a member. It might do you well to ensure that you were afforded the right sort of process. Also, in some cases, I'm sure some organizations give members a right to appeal.

If you feel you were hazed, you should call your Headquarters and discuss the situation with someone.

-- if you feel your question has been answered and really don't want to continue this topic, send me a private message and I'll remove this thread.

[KSUViolet06]

A point that needs to be made:

Sorority and fraternity members are not licenced clincians. They're just regular people. The story, if true, sucks, but you cannot expect people (particularly college-aged students) to understand depression and take it into account when dealing with disciplinary actions such as these.

I fail to see the point of these types of posts, because it's usually all about putting the chapter on blast than what the poster actually says it's all about.

If you really wanted to talk about depression and the Greek system, you probably wouldn't have added all of these specifics. Be honest, most of this is just intended to put them on blast for "being mean to you."

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

A point that needs to be made:

Sorority and fraternity members are not licenced clincians. They're just regular people.

Even if a GCer was a licensed clinician, I doubt he/she would want to offer professional advice in a place like this.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by OTW

Even if a GCer was a licensed clinician, I doubt he/she would want to offer professional advice in a place like this.

Oh unfortunately it is unsafe to assume that.

PSA:
Whether the advice is given on the board or via PM, I advise people to not take certain types of life altering advice from usernames.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Kevin

That said, every group has proper methods for the expulsion of a member. It might do you well to ensure that you were afforded the right sort of process. Also, in some cases, I'm sure some organizations give members a right to appeal.

If you feel you were hazed, you should call your Headquarters and discuss the situation with someone.

This is the only thing to get from this thread. I didn't read her post because I don't care what happened to her, regardless of what really happened.

Originally Posted by Kevin

-- if you feel your question has been answered and really don't want to continue this topic, send me a private message and I'll remove this thread.

This thread is really TMI and she could've gotten her question answered by reading her university and sorority's policies and codes of conduct.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

This thread is really TMI and she could've gotten her question answered by reading her university and sorority's policies and codes of conduct.

I agree, hence what I said above, you don't need to include all the extraneous info if that's all you want to know/discuss. What you really want is to put your chapter out on the internet as "a bunch of meanies who treated a depressed sister poorly" and have us feel sorry for you and talk about how mean they were, which isn't likely to happen.

They're people just like you and I. They aren't psychologists and probably didn't understand your depression well enough to take it into account when they sent you to standards for whatever you did.

There are 2 sides to every story. For example, how do we know what it is that you politely objected to, or what politely objected even means? For all we know, you could've politely told the sister to go f**k herself. Not saying you did, but that's an example of why it's hard to illicit sympathy via the internet.

ETA: What on earth ever happened to things being private chapter business, particularly those pertaining to standards board/judicial things?

[DSTCHAOS]

I think it's safe to say











FAIL.

[Matsimela]

well hazing is "torture" for the purposes of initiating someone. so really i would say that what you went through would be classified as harrassment. But regardless of whether or not the situation has a name, if you felt this strongly about it you probably should have taken your situation to your national board, regional board, or whatever standard protocol is for your org.