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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek
I'm clueless as of why, because it's pretty shallow for someone to say "Oh, he shouldn't be with her because she's white."
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Sweetie, now are you being obstinate or do you really NOT understand? I do not think that is what most people are saying (in bolded)--what they are saying is that these men
prey on some types of women for
baseless reasons and are
derogatory and bigoted to the women in their same group...
It is one thing that a man sees a woman and is physically attracted to her, gets to know her more and decides he likes being around her and wants to get to know her more in a dating capacity and the man happens to be Black and the woman happens to be White...
It is another thing that this same Black man says that
ALL BLACK WOMEN are bitches and that he hates them because they are not {insert derogatory comment here}--so he going to date anything BUT BLACK... That is what we are talking about... That is ALL we are discussing...
The conclusions we all have come to is:
- That these men are idiots.
- They are one less person to think about at Christmastime.
And we have sort of moved on to the kids that result from these liaisons and their self-esteems, which is a very real personal issue for me...
It says nothing about your situation. If you have found a young man that enjoys your company and treats you respectfully and he happens to be Black, I wish you all the best in your relationship.
But, after discussing a variety of topics with you, I really think you can benefit from reading and educating yourself with references rather than solely relying on this young man for his culture. So that when you encounter that awkwardness, you are better prepared when you communicate with your loved ones. Hey, you can take it or leave my advice. Besides, how come you desire cluelessness? Do you have anything we all need to know?
And if your "boyfriend" is telling you not to interact with Black women, I am here to tell you that is full of shit and EFF that... You had better make some Sistahfriends and not the bootylicious subculture--because hayle no, that is not it... You know what I am talking about... Let me know, because we can assist you in what to say and do...
Now with that said, I have something for you in the News and Views thread!!!
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