I Don't Date Outside of My Race...

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by neosoul

I really couldn't care less if black men want or choose to date exclusively non black women, it just means one less person I can cross of my list. I take happiness where I can find it, be it the arms of my Bacardi Watermelon, or the arms of a non black man/woman/tranny/shim/it.

Just like there are men who date exclusively non black for *hitty reason, there are women who do the exact same, date non black for *hitty reasons, and when you sit down and listen to thier logic, its scary, its almost like they're brainwashed or have had a one bad experience and are tainting everyone with the same brush.

My friend would always say, "that it is just one less person to think about a Christmastime..."

I understand what you are saying. I am just not "there" yet. I need prayer...

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I grew up in a highly multicultural environment (before it was cool!), near a military base, where you have all sorts of people, from Filipina GI brides to Indian aerospace engineers, mingling. Even though it's a highly conservative area of the country, interracial relationships were commonplace.

Part of it is also the fact that I have dated people of all backgrounds. So, how can I attack someone, when I do the same thing?

Finally, I was raised not to project a man's opinion of me onto how I live my life. So what if a man doesn't dig black women? No reflection on this one, because for each one that doesn't, I've found 10 more who do!

It is not that I am not open to various kinds of relationships, folks will do what they want to do. But, I really take issue with our group basically stating their reasons why they choose to avoid women of their similar group...

The other issue is many kids resulting from the liaisons suffer some form of self esteem issues. I am already seeing it in my little 3 year old nephew. He knows something is wrong, but he does not understand it in his little mind. How can I buttress that up so that when he gets older he is not displaying risky behaviors? Yes, his parents should KNOW this, but they are inundated with work or whatever other issues that I cannot go into in here.

Originally Posted by starang21

ummm.....

Starang--don't hate, participate!!!

[starang21]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Starang--don't hate, participate!!!

i'm not hating.

i don't know whether or not i should have been mortified or unsually aroused. it's all so confusing.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

The other issue is many kids resulting from the liaisons suffer some form of self esteem issues. I am already seeing it in my little 3 year old nephew. He knows something is wrong, but he does not understand it in his little mind. How can I buttress that up so that when he gets older he is not displaying risky behaviors? Yes, his parents should KNOW this, but they are inundated with work or whatever other issues that I cannot go into in here.

This is going to be a little controversial here, but I'm going to say it because I've felt this way for a long time. I suspect that the kids with the most "problems" that can be connected with their heritage are the ones where the parent of color is emotionally or physically absent or less than functional, leaving the white parent to raise the child/ren in an environment where they are very isolated.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

This is going to be a little controversial here, but I'm going to say it because I've felt this way for a long time. I suspect that the kids with the most "problems" that can be connected with their heritage are the ones where the parent of color is emotionally or physically absent or less than functional, leaving the white parent to raise the child/ren in an environment where they are very isolated.

That is not controversial!!! That is downright dead on accurate. No doubt. I am seeing that RIGHT NOW!!! These young ladies who had my brother's babies, wow... All they wanted was a meaningful relationship. Maybe they went about it with less than altruistic reasons, nonetheless, it not involves another human being. These poor kids don't know any different. So, what does this say about the development of their self-esteems?

Another question--if the dude is an asswipe, in general, how do these women manage? Especially when they do really have any Sistah friends because of the bullisht dude ingrained into their heads? I.e. Sistahs are more hostile--see the sneers!!!