Are your dating standards too high or too low?

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

o.k. I get it now, but what about for people like me. My standards have always been high, and it wasn't because I didn't wanna be met, it was because I didn't wanna be with just any random guy. I think everyone has their set standards for whatever reason it may be, but I think my reasons are realistic. I also don't like being alone, I mean who does? I would have to stay lonely if I kept going out with guys who couldn't meet my standards.

Then my posts do not pertain to you because you may not intentionally or unintentionally be setting standards that are unrealistically high and can not be met.

Some people actually do like being alone, which isn't the same thing as being lonely.

[cheerfulgreek]

Wow there's so many posts I want to repsond to. All of you make so much sense, but when you say honest about what? I'm talking about everything. This isn't rocket science. It's very simple. I just don't like to be lied to. Who does? How could I trust a guy who lies to me? I wouldn't disqualify a guy right off the bat. Of course I would like to get to know him 1st but if I see issues that an ex had that I totally couldn't deal with then I would rather not get involved with that particular guy.

DSTCHAOS, I agree with you. Some people do set their standards so high, that no one can meet them. As I said earlier, I am willing to change some of my standards, but not all of them. If I were to say I'm not changing any of my standards, then I might as will forget it, and stay by myself. To me it's not worth it. I love companionship, but only with the right guy. Daemon mentioned what he wants and that's fine. He mentioned one child or less. For me, it's 0 children. I don't want a guy with children, but that's my personal preference. I like the simple things in life, and I like guys who enjoy doing some of the same things I do. That's chemistry. I'm really outgoing, so if I was with a guy who also talked a lot, then how could he be a good listener? I think it's all about preference. That's what it all boils down to if you really want to break the whole relationship thing down. I think people make it so much harder than it actually is.

KSig, you leave Dr. Phil alone! I like Dr. Phil.