Men and women and breakups: Dissapointment vs. Betrayal

[tld221]

Originally Posted by silviabelt

I recently experienced a betrayal. My boyfriend of 12 years just started a relationship with a mutual friend that treated me like a friend and i love her son...took him to parks and had. I felt like I wasn't worthy as a woman since it was all a big shock to me. The last month he has broken all communication with her. We are tying to get passed this but it is really hard. i recently wrote her a letter letting her know that I feel betrayed by her as well and she went beyond moral and ethical boundaries as a friend a mother etc... how painful this esperience has been and how it has affected both of us negatively etc... Should I send this to her or not? I'm not sure it would be appropriate or not. I guess i'm looking for advice or answers to feel better.

decided to take it slow huh? (sorry, couldnt help it)

umm seriously, call me naive and idealistic, but if you two were friends like that and you with the guy for 12 years, im going to need you to not write her a letter. be a bigger woman and confront her head on. i mean she took your man! 12 years and you punk up behind a letter?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by tld221

decided to take it slow huh? (sorry, couldnt help it)

umm seriously, call me naive and idealistic, but if you two were friends like that and you with the guy for 12 years, im going to need you to not write her a letter. be a bigger woman and confront her head on. i mean she took your man! 12 years and you punk up behind a letter?

It sounds like he cheated on her with her close friend, but then again it sounds like they had already broken up. I'm just trying to figure out which one it is.

It sounds like she planned on stealing him from her all along without her knowing it. I'm surprised she didn't see any signs? I guess I would have to agree with you. Either way, I wouldn't write a letter either. It's not like it's going to change anything. 12 years is a long time, and I know it's easier said than done, but I would try and move on.

[James]

When we read about her shooting her friend we'll think back to your post

Originally Posted by tld221

decided to take it slow huh? (sorry, couldnt help it)

umm seriously, call me naive and idealistic, but if you two were friends like that and you with the guy for 12 years, im going to need you to not write her a letter. be a bigger woman and confront her head on. i mean she took your man! 12 years and you punk up behind a letter?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by James

When we read about her shooting her friend we'll think back to your post

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H7uLmEqeAk0

[tld221]

Originally Posted by James

When we read about her shooting her friend we'll think back to your post

no one is saying she has to resort to violence. but writing a letter... would be ok if she stole your man... in high school. which is probably how long yall have been friends/dating.

even if you did confront her, theres nothing she could say that makes it right. get another best friend. get another boyfriend. thats what myspace is for.