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I think it depends on the people involved and the nature of the break up. I do think that the feeling of betrayal comes when there has been cheating going on, or the breaking of what were interpreted as promises. "I'm going to love you forever", "There will never be anybody else for me", "When we get married.." etc. It also feels like betrayal if there was expression of deep affection just prior to the break up. Boy says "I love you" and "makes love" and then breaks up shortly after.. that gives rather mixed messages. It's like "So you loved me two days ago and today you never want to see me again?". I think that a lot of the time, the break up was a long time coming but the person continued with the same habit of saying the same things and acting the same way, thereby blindsiding the person.
The only time I ever really felt betrayed was when I had been dating someone for a few months and he got on my case because I wouldn't assume there was a future between us. I said I wanted to buy an old pickup truck in a couple years just for Home Depot runs and he said something like "Don't you realize that in a couple years my truck will be your truck too?", implying he thought we'd be married. We had a talk about my cynicism and he swore he'd prove to me that he was a man of his word, would be around forever, etc. He broke up a week later, with some lame excuse about moving out of state.
Dee
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The only real relationship I have been in, I ended myself and was relieved to do so, so I can't really give you personal opinion on it. The only example I can think of right now is my friend's relationship ending after almost 4 years. She's very vindictive and bitter, however he was an a-hole about it, so I see why.
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