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[AChiOhSnap]

Originally Posted by sunnyhibiscus

I don't understand. I mean I have a good personaility and all. I didn't say anything negative at the open house. And I'm a sweet person and all. I don't know. And there were about seven people at the open house.

I have dreamed about joining a sorority for so long. And I'm willing not to let my dream die. I'm not a stalker on anything. It's just that you know. I will keep on trying. I'm one of those people who will not give up

This was a quote from you from your first thread you started back in January after COB didn't work out. I don't think you sounded that devastated there, but you really were having trouble understanding why some other girl got in a sorority and you didn't.

So as it stands right now, you're at least a sophomore. There are MYRIAD reasons why upperclassmen may be cut from recruitment. But that said... if you do COB again this year, it will be the third time in as many semesters that you've gone through recruitment.

You've gone through Informal once and were only invited back to one chapter. You didn't go. You went through formal this fall -- it didn't work out. Maybe you were cut because you were a sophomore, maybe some other reason, but you seem to think you were cut because you're a social "outcast" and now you're heartbroken.

Given all this -- the only information I have -- I don't think you're in a very good position to receive a bid the third time around. I would never recommend anyone try recruitment a third time, especially not someone who has taken these rejections so hard. I'm not trying to be mean or insensitive, but I just don't think it would be responsible advice if I were to tell you to go ahead and give it another shot.

[sarasmile]

Originally Posted by AChiOhSnap

This was a quote from you from your first thread you started back in January after COB didn't work out. I don't think you sounded that devastated there, but you really were having trouble understanding why some other girl got in a sorority and you didn't.

So as it stands right now, you're at least a sophomore. There are MYRIAD reasons why upperclassmen may be cut from recruitment. But that said... if you do COB again this year, it will be the third time in as many semesters that you've gone through recruitment.

You've gone through Informal once and were only invited back to one chapter. You didn't go. You went through formal this fall -- it didn't work out. Maybe you were cut because you were a sophomore, maybe some other reason, but you seem to think you were cut because you're a social "outcast" and now you're heartbroken.

Given all this -- the only information I have -- I don't think you're in a very good position to receive a bid the third time around. I would never recommend anyone try recruitment a third time, especially not someone who has taken these rejections so hard. I'm not trying to be mean or insensitive, but I just don't think it would be responsible advice if I were to tell you to go ahead and give it another shot.

Quoted for truth.


Sunny - do you know any sorority women outside of just participating in recruitment? I think it sounds like your best opportunity would be to get to know a sorority woman or two outside of recruitment (in your classes, in other activities, etc.).

If your "problem" during recruitment and COR is that you're to anxious to let the real you shine through, getting to know someone in a no pressure, not sorority related atmosphere might be your best option. Let them see the real you...if they feel like you're a good match and they happen to have spots available, you never know.

But I'd have to agree that based on the level of devastation you're describing, going through recruitment (even COR events) again would be maochistic. I'm not saying that you should give up on the idea of ever being in a sorority, rather that getting to know/mingling with women during non-recruitment events might be a more emotionally healthy way to approach it. (Worst case scenario - you still make new friends, which it sounds like you could use right now. )