Bad news

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The first thing that you need to do is take some time for yourself. If you are feeling this bad because of not getting into a sorority, then maybe it really wasn't the best choice for you. Yes, not getting a bid can be devistating, but it should not destroy who you are.

I think October is a good time for COB (if there are any). It gives you plenty of time to pull yourself together and get involved in other things and make new friends. If you still want to join in October, then give it another try.

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Originally Posted by smiley21

The first thing that you need to do is take some time for yourself. If you are feeling this bad because of not getting into a sorority, then maybe it really wasn't the best choice for you. Yes, not getting a bid can be devistating, but it should not destroy who you are.

I am so sorry for you, Sunny, but smiley21 is right. It's fine to be disappointed, sad, embarassed and depressed after an unsuccessful recruitment...temporarily. If you're so devastated that you need to see the counseling center, you probably shouldn't rush again. Not COB, not formal, not anything.

You've been posting on these forums long enough to know how recruitment works and how and why PNMs get cut. If you're taking the fact that you didn't get a bid to this chapter as some grand indictment of your personality -- leading back all the way from high school until now -- I really don't think you're going to take it well at all if COB doesn't work out.

I'm really really not trying to be mean. I honestly feel bad for you, but it just takes a very thick skin to deal with an unsuccessful recruitment. If you're not that kind of personality, it's okay, but please don't be a masochist about this. Don't put yourself in a potentially emotionally devastating situation AGAIN.