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cuteASAbug · #16 08-27-2007, 08:06 PM

what the hell is with everyone referring to their daughters as D? is there some kind of secret greekchat dictionary that I don't get/know about?

#17 08-27-2007, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Senusret I

I'm sorry, but it should. I'm all about that. Seriously.

Oh you know I was speaking objectively!

I'm sure that, in certain chapters of our fine organizations, $$$ does guarantee your legacy bid.

But that's for a whole 'nother thread.

Senusret I · #18 08-27-2007, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

what the hell is with everyone referring to their daughters as D? is there some kind of secret greekchat dictionary that I don't get/know about?

If people typed out Daughter all the time, that would be too confusing on everyone -- DUH!!!!

#19 08-27-2007, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

what the hell is with everyone referring to their daughters as D? is there some kind of secret greekchat dictionary that I don't get/know about?

I know. It's annoying as hell, isn't it?

It's like they refer to their daughters as 'D' on another online message board, and then some asshat decides to tell those people about GreekChat then they invade here like crazy! Oh wait...

[patiently waits for the crazy recruitments to be over so that GC can attempt to be normal again]

Senusret I · #20 08-27-2007, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by OTW

It's like they refer to their daughters as 'D' on another online message board, and then some asshat decides to tell those people about GreekChat then they invade here like crazy! Oh wait...

This is like the great Kazo invasion of 05 (?), but more annoying.

cuteASAbug · #21 08-27-2007, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by OTW

I know. It's annoying as hell, isn't it?

Yes. Please make it stop.

#22 08-27-2007, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Senusret I

This is like the great Kazo invasion of 05 (?), but more annoying.

KAZODIASS!!!!

I remember that was my new favorite word at that time.

Nothing beats the Frattys, though.

UGAalum94 · #23 08-27-2007, 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by OTW

Oh you know I was speaking objectively!

I'm sure that, in certain chapters of our fine organizations, $$$ does guarantee your legacy bid.

But that's for a whole 'nother thread.

I'm not sure what chapters of our fine organizations you all have in mind, but I don't think it even guarantees a bid in the SEC chapters, and you know, we're crazy and stereotypical and superficial and mean to fat people and stuff, and if any chapter would let someone buy a bid, surely it would be the SEC. Roll Tide, Woof, War Eagle, HottyToddy!

But seriously, I don't think that alumnae should believe that remaining active and financial supportive means for sure that a legacy would get a bid, but you can be sure that my support will follow my hypothetical kid if you cut her and I think it's a perfectly reasonable position for others to hold as well.

And this case points to the fact that the factors that cause groups to drop legacies might often be lame. I wonder if the mean girl will make up for the loss of support to the chapter over time?

sageofages · #24 08-27-2007, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaGamUGAAlum

I'm merely an old alumna, not an advisor or AGD official. I have no special inside or even expert information, and much of the information that I will suggest, I learned on GreekChat.

I LOVE IT! Can I steal it too? It is perfect!

UGAalum94 · #25 08-27-2007, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by sageofages

I LOVE IT! Can I steal it too? It is perfect!

Sure! The more the merrier!

I'm trying to go for a truth in advertising thing. All the recruitment stuff if fascinating to me, but I don't actually know how any of it works. When I think I do, then I find out I'm wrong.

AKA_Monet · #26 08-27-2007, 09:57 PM

CuteASABug: Good Original Post!

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Originally Posted by SoMom

Pain passes. Wisdom learned from hard lessons lasts forever.

I need to learn that myself even though I could have an 18 year old Daughter, but don't...

cuteASAbug · #27 08-27-2007, 09:58 PM

awww thank you

tennesseemom · #28 08-27-2007, 11:48 PM

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Originally Posted by GatorMom

So how does one deal with the legacy factor when it has been talked about with your daughters for years? My daughter just rushed at my own alma mater where I have been a lifelong supporter. One girl that we knew pledged there last year who was always competing with my D in sports. She was a very spiteful girl. So of course you guessed it, she kept my daughter out of MY chapter, a double legacy who's cousin, (my niece) was past president!!! Of course I can list all her incredible accomplishments, athletic, brains and beauty combined, but it doesn't matter now. What a slap in the face.... My daughter did find another house she liked and pledged and is handling it much better than I am. The next solicitation letter I receive is going to have some very choice words for them to chew on. And my second daughter is so livid she said she won't even speak to anyone there when she rushes next year. This will pass, but after 30 years I am no longer proud to be a KD.

Mean girl needs to be prayed for, because her issues of spite go far deeper than sorority. this is a valuable lesson of maturity for your daughter and you, and I think your D is in the right spot. Be a proud donator to your D's new chapter!

adpiucf · #29 08-27-2007, 11:59 PM

GatorMom, I'm sorry things did not work out with your daughter's legacy chapter. One of my friends experienced this when she rushed at UF several years ago. She was dropped by her legacy, but had a wonderful experience as a sister of another chapter. Mom was upset about it at the time, but her other children pledged her legacy, the elder sister was happy, the younger were happy and life continued for all-- mom was involved with supporting both chapters after the hurt feelings went away.

Please remember that the members of the chapter who are there now are not the same ladies you pledged with. This does not mean they're not a great chapter, but your daughter found the place that was right for her, and I hope she will enjoy her new sisterhood as much as you enjoyed yours. Please don't let this sour you on the school or the Greek System (or the chapter!) that brought you so much happiness when you were her age.

Go Gators! (I can officially say that now that I've been a UF grad student for one week...)

Zillini · #30 08-28-2007, 08:02 AM

Gatormom, that must have been an incredibly difficult experience for your daughter and especially for you. But as was said earlier, money doesn't guarantee a bid. If it did then in fact we alums would be guilty of buying our children's friends. With that being said though, if there was 1 mean girl who purposely blocked your daughter then that's not fair either. Had this situation occurred in my Chapter, I hope I would have looked into what was going on. If the Chapter wants to release the legacy of a valued and generous alum, I would want to make sure there was more "cause" than 1 mean girl's personal vendetta.

But at this point there is nothing that can be done. I am happy your daughter found a home elsewhere. My advice is the next time your Chapter solicits you for donations you should respond with a polite note saying you have donated to your sorority's national philanthropy as you feel your money would be more useful there.