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GatorMom · #1 08-27-2007, 07:44 PM

So how does one deal with the legacy factor when it has been talked about with your daughters for years? My daughter just rushed at my own alma mater where I have been a lifelong supporter. One girl that we knew pledged there last year who was always competing with my D in sports. She was a very spiteful girl. So of course you guessed it, she kept my daughter out of MY chapter, a double legacy who's cousin, (my niece) was past president!!! Of course I can list all her incredible accomplishments, athletic, brains and beauty combined, but it doesn't matter now. What a slap in the face.... My daughter did find another house she liked and pledged and is handling it much better than I am. The next solicitation letter I receive is going to have some very choice words for them to chew on. And my second daughter is so livid she said she won't even speak to anyone there when she rushes next year. This will pass, but after 30 years I am no longer proud to be a KD.

Senusret I · #2 08-27-2007, 07:50 PM

Wow.

If the ALMA MATER is soliciting donations, they certainly have nothing to do with membership selection.

Now, are you actually saying that your chapter solicits you? Or the school? Because seriously, you can't pressure the school into pressuring the chapter to accept your daughter.

Unless you've endowed a building or department or something.

GatorMom · #3 08-27-2007, 07:55 PM

Yes indeed my chapter solicits me for all kinds of donations which I have happily contributed to in the past. Don't all chapters? Who knows, but I am very sure they are aware of who donates and who doesn't. That's just good business, and if anyone thinks money doesn't matter to these organizations they are sadly out of touch.

Senusret I · #4 08-27-2007, 08:03 PM

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Originally Posted by GatorMom

Yes indeed my chapter solicits me for all kinds of donations which I have happily contributed to in the past. Don't all chapters? Who knows, but I am very sure they are aware of who donates and who doesn't. That's just good business, and if anyone thinks money doesn't matter to these organizations they are sadly out of touch.

I really don't know as I was neither initiated in a collegiate chapter, nor am I a member of an NPC sorority.

If it was my kid, I wouldn't donate any more either.

If you feel the need to donate that extra cash anywhere, feel free to send it to the United Senusret I Fund.

#5 08-27-2007, 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Senusret I

Now, are you actually saying that your chapter solicits you? Or the school? Because seriously, you can't pressure the school into pressuring the chapter to accept your daughter.

It's customary for alums to get solicitations from their collegiate chapters whenever they need assistance. I've seen alums donate $$$ to help pay to fix leaky roofs, furnish the study room, etc. etc.

I know that $$$ doesn't guarantee her daughter a bid, but still. If Mean Girl was the real reason her daughter didn't get a bid, then well -- I'd be pissed off too.

Senusret I · #6 08-27-2007, 08:04 PM

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Originally Posted by OTW

It's customary for alums to get solicitations from their collegiate chapters whenever they need assistance. I've seen alums donate $$$ to help pay to fix leaky roofs, furnish the study room, etc. etc.

I know that $$$ doesn't guarantee her daughter a bid, but still. If Mean Girl was the real reason her daughter didn't get a bid, then well -- I'd be pissed off too.

I'm sorry, but it should. I'm all about that. Seriously.

#7 08-27-2007, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Senusret I

I'm sorry, but it should. I'm all about that. Seriously.

Oh you know I was speaking objectively!

I'm sure that, in certain chapters of our fine organizations, $$$ does guarantee your legacy bid.

But that's for a whole 'nother thread.

UGAalum94 · #8 08-27-2007, 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by OTW

Oh you know I was speaking objectively!

I'm sure that, in certain chapters of our fine organizations, $$$ does guarantee your legacy bid.

But that's for a whole 'nother thread.

I'm not sure what chapters of our fine organizations you all have in mind, but I don't think it even guarantees a bid in the SEC chapters, and you know, we're crazy and stereotypical and superficial and mean to fat people and stuff, and if any chapter would let someone buy a bid, surely it would be the SEC. Roll Tide, Woof, War Eagle, HottyToddy!

But seriously, I don't think that alumnae should believe that remaining active and financial supportive means for sure that a legacy would get a bid, but you can be sure that my support will follow my hypothetical kid if you cut her and I think it's a perfectly reasonable position for others to hold as well.

And this case points to the fact that the factors that cause groups to drop legacies might often be lame. I wonder if the mean girl will make up for the loss of support to the chapter over time?

sageofages · #9 08-27-2007, 09:06 PM

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I'm merely an old alumna, not an advisor or AGD official. I have no special inside or even expert information, and much of the information that I will suggest, I learned on GreekChat.

I LOVE IT! Can I steal it too? It is perfect!

cuteASAbug · #10 08-27-2007, 08:06 PM

what the hell is with everyone referring to their daughters as D? is there some kind of secret greekchat dictionary that I don't get/know about?

Senusret I · #11 08-27-2007, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

what the hell is with everyone referring to their daughters as D? is there some kind of secret greekchat dictionary that I don't get/know about?

If people typed out Daughter all the time, that would be too confusing on everyone -- DUH!!!!

#12 08-27-2007, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

what the hell is with everyone referring to their daughters as D? is there some kind of secret greekchat dictionary that I don't get/know about?

I know. It's annoying as hell, isn't it?

It's like they refer to their daughters as 'D' on another online message board, and then some asshat decides to tell those people about GreekChat then they invade here like crazy! Oh wait...

[patiently waits for the crazy recruitments to be over so that GC can attempt to be normal again]

Senusret I · #13 08-27-2007, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by OTW

It's like they refer to their daughters as 'D' on another online message board, and then some asshat decides to tell those people about GreekChat then they invade here like crazy! Oh wait...

This is like the great Kazo invasion of 05 (?), but more annoying.

#14 08-27-2007, 08:12 PM

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This is like the great Kazo invasion of 05 (?), but more annoying.

KAZODIASS!!!!

I remember that was my new favorite word at that time.

Nothing beats the Frattys, though.

cuteASAbug · #15 08-27-2007, 08:11 PM

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I know. It's annoying as hell, isn't it?

Yes. Please make it stop.