Raining on someone's recruitment parade

[WarEagle07]

My first exposure to the Auburn rush scene was when my daughter and I visited the campus last year. It happened to be a mother/daughter weekend for the campus sororities and we were able to meet several mothers and daughters. All of them had the same feeling about rush at Auburn, and they all said that as parents you just have to steel yourself. They all said that the girls are under so much pressure both emotionally and physically (excessive heat, lack of sleep) that they just will break down and loose perspective on the whole situation. Is it really worse than at non-SEC schools? I have no idea. All I know is that it is common for Auburn parents to get tear filled phone calls from their daughters throughout the week. I should think that it is the same at other schools. What makes SEC recruitment so much different? Perhaps a thread to prepare parents for what they may face when their child rushes would be a good idea. Not only can we lay down expectations but also give advice on how to positively react when things go badly. That's just my two cents! ( however, I really want to know why SEC rush is so different?):

[violetpretty]

While AuburnMom invited others to chime in about recruitment at Auburn, she probably had no idea what could happen to the thread. Even if there wasn't Momof2gals' story to "rain on her parade", it makes more sense to start a new thread just for simplicity and readability. I am sure that Momof2gals didn't mean any harm by posting her daughter's story, but it did get to the point this morning that I thought "Gee what is AuburnMom going to say now? Is she going to feel like she has to apologize?" Turns out that her daughter had the best possible news, a full schedule of chapters, all of which she could see herself in.

New PNM = New thread Yea or Nay?

[AChiOhSnap]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

New PNM = New thread Yea or Nay?

Yea, but mostly for purely selfish reasons other than what we've discussed tonight. I actually like reading the whole story (complete with codenames, if applicable) and I always think it's such a letdown when someone posts the start of a story in another thread and then posts again a week later, after bid day, with "Oh yeah! PNM Daughter went DG!" I like the buildup and the surprise.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by WarEagle07

I...(however, I really want to know why SEC rush is so different?):

Um...it's not that it's SEC rush, it's rush with a HUGE number of girls (Ole Miss, Auburn, Alabama, FSU, Florida, Georgia, Tennessee, as well as Illinois, Michigan and lots of other places folks can add). These girls may or may not have mamas, grandmamas, aunts, and cousins in sororities, as well as their older high school friends who graduated before them, all talking to them about sororities.
LOTS of emphasis is placed on pledging the "right" sorority, especially during "tent talk." (And the first time I heard that talk was during my freshman orientation, weeks before rush).
Add that to hundreds of girls apparently getting bids, everybody but you...heat, exhaustion, immaturity, emotional turmoil...you can see how it can turn into a bit of mass hysteria!!

[Low C Sharp]

perhaps she felt that if the sororities felt that her daughter would not fit into their chapters(trying to use her logic), then maybe she would not fit in anywhere at auburn-that she must not be the typical auburn student, since she did not receive a bid.

I also read the comment in a more innocent and daughter-friendly light. I thought she was saying, in essence, "Since Auburn is full of shallow, judgmental beeyotches like the several thousand sorority women who ALL rejected my daughter, then maybe I should have sent her to a different school where the students have their heads on straight."

That sentiment is totally understandable under the circumstances, and there may be some truth in it, too. It's possible to make a mistake when you choose a school. Discovering that the school is a severe social mismatch (whether or not that is actually the case here) is a legitimate reason to question whether the school was the wrong choice.