Too fat to recruit: or, DePauw, the Sequel

[dgdramadawg]

Originally Posted by SECdomination

Here is why the overweight girl MUST be "hidden":

At a school with a competitive greek system, image is everything. All the sisters of all the sororities dress their best and look their best during rush. So you end up with most girls looking good and wearing designer clothing. Because they all do that, there is a level playing field.
The rushees don't care about what the girls are wearing because it's all expensive. One element of superficial rush is gone.
All the sisters spend so much time getting themselves all done up, so they are lookin' good! Another element of superficial rush is gone- all the sororities have attractive girls!
But, WAIT!
This one sorority has some fat girls. There must be something undesirable about them because this house is DIFFERENT from the rest.

Would you NPC women drift away from the norm for first round parties and get all emotional about your sisterhood? No. Because it would be DIFFERENT from the others.

It's unfortunate, but sometimes necessary.

SECdomination, you make great points here, ones that us SEC women (and women from other competitive schools) will be able to totally grasp... and maybe even some women from non-competitive schools, too, who can realize the big gap between everyone-is-PC-and-nice-to-everyone recruitment and competitive RUSH. I get the idea that a lot of posters live in Fantasy Land where this isn't the way it is and they can't seem to understand that no matter how much we don't like it and don't think it's "nice," it's not going to change (at least no time soon). Women outside of competitive recruitments like to post about how it "should" be, but they haven't experienced it from the inside so it's hard for them to see how unchangeable these attitudes are on these campuses.

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by dgdramadawg

SECdomination, you make great points here, ones that us SEC women (and women from other competitive schools) will be able to totally grasp... and maybe even some women from non-competitive schools, too, who can realize the big gap between everyone-is-PC-and-nice-to-everyone recruitment and competitive RUSH. I get the idea that a lot of posters live in Fantasy Land where this isn't the way it is and they can't seem to understand that no matter how much we don't like it and don't think it's "nice," it's not going to change (at least no time soon). Women outside of competitive recruitments like to post about how it "should" be, but they haven't experienced it from the inside so it's hard for them to see how unchangeable these attitudes are on these campuses.

I'm sorry that some of us just soooooo out of it and dumb and can't understand...but some of us have a value system that doesn't allow us to degrade people we made promises to. As long as people continue to use your excuses it will not change. It will not change in one year, five years, maybe not even in ten years. It could take twenty, fifty, one hundred years. But it is possible to change it if someone will someday have the guts to stand up for what is right. As far as I'm concerened it's a total in-your-face disgrace to what the organizations stand for to be so shallow.

[dgdramadawg]

Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl

I'm sorry that some of us just soooooo out of it and dumb and can't understand...but some of us have a value system that doesn't allow us to degrade people we made promises to.

Honey, I'm not saying those outside the system are "too dumb" to understand what's going on... nor am I saying that I would actually DO this to a sister or allow it to be done. The chapter I came from wouldn't have done it. I would be glad to believe that there aren't chapters who do it and there aren't reasons it could accomplish something positive numbers-wise in recruitment... but I know for a fact that isn't true.

What I am saying is that, having been through an SEC recruitment as a PNM (and hearing all the talk about chapters, good and bad), I am disillusioned enough to get why a chapter would make this choice. Yes, it's mean to do it. No, I wouldn't personally do it, because sisters are sisters and I believe that part of pledging a girl is knowing that she'll be a recruiting sister for the next three years. But I understand the reasoning behind it.