How does your school handle bidless PNMs on bid day?

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Nothing anyone says is particularly comforting to a girl who is dealing with what is quite possibly the first rejection she's ever had in her life.

In addition, I think that having a non Greek say stuff like "You can have fun at college without being in a sorority. I'm involved in governement, rec league soccer, etc" is not going to comfort her. If she wanted government or soccer, she would've joined that in the first place.

It's like when people suggest that girls join other groups on GC when girls go bidless. It doesn't help because it's not what they want. She wants bigs/littles, date parties, block seating at football games, formal, etc.

I think a professional counselor being available is a good idea though because they are a trained professional.

I think we're really talking about two different things. You're talking about girls upset enough to need professional counselors. I'm, and I think DeltaBetaBaby too, talking about girls who might be bummed out that it didn't work out like they'd hoped who might benefit from a reminder that there are other aspects to college than Greek Life. I agree that it doesn't 100% make up for the disappointment, but it's still be nice to offer it, particularly with people especially invited for the purpose. I'm kind of thinking similar in general outlook to the folks who do summer orientation.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

I think we're really talking about two different things. You're talking about girls upset enough to need professional counselors. I'm, and I think DeltaBetaBaby too, talking about girls who might be bummed out that it didn't work out like they'd hoped who might benefit from a reminder that there are other aspects to college than Greek Life.

Yeah I agree. There are 2 types of bidless PNMs. There's the type who is bummed, but eager to find something else to get involved in and move on with college. Those girls could benefit from talking to a highly-involved non-Greek woman.

Then there's the type who is crushed and thinks college is ruined because she is not in a sorority. Those most likely cannot be comforted by anyone (PX, non-Greek, school counselors). Those are the girls who will probably just need time to realize that yes, college goes on.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Yeah I agree. There are 2 types of bidless PNMs. There's the type who is bummed, but eager to find something else to get involved in and move on with college. Those girls could benefit from talking to a highly-involved non-Greek woman.

Then there's the type who is crushed and thinks college is ruined because she is not in a sorority. Those most likely cannot be comforted by anyone (PX, non-Greek, school counselors). Those are the girls who will probably just need time to realize that yes, college goes on.

I agree. And I think there are some that go back and forth about how big a deal it is and it they are only around happy, happy NPC girls, it starts to seem like a bigger deal.

I never knew anyone personally who left school because of her rush results, but there were rumors to that effect. The president of SGA taking her out for coffee probably wouldn't change that. But the girls I knew who rushed last year and dropped out (because they didn't like their results) probably would have felt better to meet some other successful students who weren't caught up in Greek Life.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

I think this is especially important on a campus like my own where greeks are like 22% of the students, but 70% of the SGA, 50% of the senior 100, etc. Some girls rushing obviously have their heart set on a sorority, but others, like myself, just see it initially as a good way to make connections, meet people, etc. Meeting non-greeks would help to some extent.