Exchanging Canes

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Originally Posted by proud2bSigma

I dont think the bond is that tight in NYC. It looks as thought the Nupes up here are tight with the AKA's. I actually witnessed some sorors a little salty towards the Nupes saying that we should not "sweat" them. as a neo...Im confused. At a recent function we were not greeted as warmly (if at all) as the AKA's and Delta's by Kappas. I find that the Alphas have been more friendly toward us (hugs and all) I havent even spoke to a Nupe yet and I have been around them several times. :shrugs:

Originally Posted by PearlRuby

I also live in the northeast and in my experience Greeks in general up here just aren't as friendly. But I've heard the opinion that northeasterners in general aren't as friendly, so maybe that's part of it? I don't know. Overall, in my experience greeks usually don't even acknowledge each other as even greek-to-greek, unless we know each other personally. When I was a neo, I smiled and spoke to every greek I encountered. After being looked at sideways almost every time I did that, I soon learned that friendliness between greeks is not the culture here. There have been exceptions to this of course, but overall this has been my experience.

oh, as for the whole cane issue - i dont touch any Nupe's cane unless i know them and know they won't spazz about it. even them i'm a little cautious. as for my own soror's canes, i would hope that my own sorors would have no issue. i dont own canes anyway, but if i did, it would be no big deal. im just wondering why a Nupe would WANT to twirl an SGRho cane and vice versa. it's just not on my top 10 things to do.


Regarding the Indi-love concept, when I was brought in, I was taught, "Sigma has no brother fraternity", therefore I had no expectations whatsoever of any kind of connection with any frat. So when I encounter a Kappa I don't know, and as usual he doesn't speak, I'm not phased because I had no expectations that he would in the first place. However, if the rare occasion occurs when a Kappa, or any other greek, speaks or makes a friendly gesture, I of course return that.

co-signing with both sorors. i also was made in NYC with the double sided view on Indi-love--on one hand, we as Sigma woman stand on our own and dont depend on a brother-sister relationship with ANY frat. however, i was also taught to respect that indi-love where it is GIVEN.

so yes, i have grown into the mindset of "the Kappas arent sweating us (well, not in NYC anyway) so why should we sweat them?" i refuse to run after ANY greek like some groupie. if said Kappa is gonna show me love, then i will return it. if they wanna act brand new and flock after some other D9 sistergreek (NTTAWWT), they can do them and i can do me.

now some greeks may see that as Sigma women being XYZ or whatever you wanna call it, but whatever man. It's nice to have that bond, but we hardly need to rely on it.

ETA: and that whole "oh the Kappas used to walk the SGRhos home and use the canes as defense" story... ive been told that is hoohah. i mean, the universities are 1.5 hours apart by DRIVING... but i wasnt exactly around in 1922 to verify so... yeah.