Exchanging Canes

marquise1911 · #1 02-27-2006, 04:59 PM

Sigma Ladies,

On my yard you lovely ladies are our sorors. At parties or on the yard we often step together and stroll together. At one event one of the bruhs borrowed a cane from one of your sorhors and started twirling it. A Sigma Lady from another campus where Indi-Love doesn't exist got upset and tried to take the cane from him

. What's up with that? On our yard it's ok for a Sigma Lady to hold a Nupe's cane and for a Nupe to hold a SGRho cane. We understand the historical bond between us and the cane. So my question is...Is there any reason why, in the spirit of Indi-Luv, we can't touch or exchange canes?

rho4life · #2 02-27-2006, 05:27 PM

I think this is just one of those regional things. Just to be on the safe side, and to be polite, I always ask before I touch someone else's cane unless I know them and know that it's cool. And I expect people to ask before they grab mine. It's just about manners, if you were at someone's house that you don't know that well, you don't go digging through their stuff, you ASK if you need something.

PS - When you come out to CA, you could borrow mine.

GoldenGlow2000 · #3 02-27-2006, 05:30 PM

All I can say is different strokes, for different folks. If the Soror let the bruh borrow the cane, I don't see the problem. I'm quite sure she knew what he would do with it.
As far as it goes, I am one for the Indi-love. I have received nothing but respect from the brothers I have met from Kappa Alpha Psi.

bluethunder · #4 02-28-2006, 09:29 PM

now, i must say that i LOVE me some K-A-Psi and Indiana Love is a BEAUTIFUL thing...

but when it comes to my cane, my philosophy is very simple:

i don't even want my mama touchin' the cane. i used to ride with my cane in the front windshield of my car and all my passengers (usually male friends) would reach for it, as if to touch it, but i would always stop them short of putting their fingers on it and tell them, "you don't wanna do that. it's not worth it."

but that's just me. i don't touch anybody else's cane, unless i have to-- like if its step practice or if we are at practice and someone didn't bring their wood.

MightyQuinn · #5 03-01-2006, 04:45 AM

Something just occurred to me- I've been a Delta for almost 11 years and I had no idea, until about 3 y ears ago, that there is an unwritten rule that you are not suppose to touch a Kappa's cane. Not that I've ever tried to or felt the urge to but I didn't know that it was a no no! I guess it's the fact that for one, I can honestly say I have had little to no contact with Kappas (although my dentist is a Kappa) and two when I have come into contact with them the cane thing was no where in the conversation. It's good to learn something new, even when you're far from being new!

NinjaPoodle · #6 03-01-2006, 03:29 PM

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Originally posted by GoldenGlow2000
All I can say is different strokes, for different folks. If the Soror let the bruh borrow the cane, I don't see the problem. I'm quite sure she knew what he would do with it.
As far as it goes, I am one for the Indi-love. I have received nothing but respect from the brothers I have met from Kappa Alpha Psi.

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Originally posted by rho4life
I think this is just one of those regional things. Just to be on the safe side, and to be polite, I always ask before I touch someone else's cane unless I know them and know that it's cool. And I expect people to ask before they grab mine. It's just about manners, if you were at someone's house that you don't know that well, you don't go digging through their stuff, you ASK if you need something.

PS - When you come out to CA, you could borrow mine.

I agree with my SoRHOrs.

Personally, I am also for the Indi-Love as they were the 1st to congratulate us after my sand and I crossed. I've never touched a Kappas Kane however I did ask one to show me a twirl.

NinjaPoodle · #7 03-02-2006, 03:02 PM

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Originally posted by NinjaPoodle
I agree with my SoRHOrs. Personally, I am also for the Indi-Love as they were the 1st to congratulate us after my sand and I crossed. I've never touched a Kappas Kane however I did ask one to show me a twirl.

OK...this changed last night. With permission, I twirled a Kappa kane (and didn't drop it

)

GoldenGlow2000 · #8 03-02-2006, 03:15 PM

Congratulations!

NinjaPoodle · #9 03-02-2006, 08:31 PM

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Originally posted by GoldenGlow2000
Congratulations!

TRSimon · #10 03-06-2006, 12:11 PM

Well, some chapters I have seen are close like that. Some are not.

I like what Rho4life said about manners, though. I mean, you shouldn't go grabbing people's stuff without asking, even if they are a friend or family member.

marquise1911 · #11 03-06-2006, 01:07 PM

Thanx ladies... I really appreciate your feedback. I can understand your points, all of them. Oh yeah! Congrats NinjaPoodle!!! Keep at it. I've only seen one Sigma Lady twirl like (and better than some) a Nupe. Hopefully there will be many more. If you need more practice just ask, I'll happily let you borrow my cane.

KAPital PHINUst · #12 05-22-2007, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by marquise1911

Thanx ladies... I really appreciate your feedback. I can understand your points, all of them. Oh yeah! Congrats NinjaPoodle!!! Keep at it. I've only seen one Sigma Lady twirl like (and better than some) a Nupe. Hopefully there will be many more. If you need more practice just ask, I'll happily let you borrow my cane.

Mine too.

GRACED2BSGRHO · #13 05-22-2007, 05:03 PM

Here in the STL area, on one of the yards we are definitely not experiencing the Indie Connection. We had a all greek step show, and some of the Bruh's were sitting in the area designated for greeks. My Sorhors and I went to take a seat and one of the Bruh's, told us that the section was for the Kappas, I thanked him politely for the information. Needless to say we sat down anyway, after I informed him we would be sitting in the section because we had the Indie Connection. Even here in the STL some bruh's are not showing the love. Actually the Ques showed more love than the bruh's did.

EE- Yip

IncontRHOllable · #14 05-22-2007, 09:29 PM

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Originally Posted by GRACED2BSGRHO

Needless to say we sat down anyway, after I informed him we would be sitting in the section because we had the Indie Connection.
EE- Yip

Soror I know that's right and if they did not know now they know.

BlueReign · #15 05-23-2007, 01:54 AM

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Originally Posted by IncontRHOllable

Soror I know that's right and if they did not know now they know.

I seriously did not want to respond to anymore comments in this thread, but since I am up late cause I'm taking some well deserved time off,

Then, yeah that's right, Soror cause they need to know!! I am tired of this topic like I said -- but at the same time I have encountered way too many Kappas FROM ALL OVER who are "sweating" ME and letting me know of that "bond" and "history". So since it does exist (and thinking about the history of the STATE OF INDIANA at that time, then yes, it would have to) then maybe it's up to "us" to inform them.

Just like they inform me when I'm just out doing ME and my SGRho thing...