Exchanging Canes

marquise1911 · #1 02-27-2006, 04:59 PM

Sigma Ladies,

On my yard you lovely ladies are our sorors. At parties or on the yard we often step together and stroll together. At one event one of the bruhs borrowed a cane from one of your sorhors and started twirling it. A Sigma Lady from another campus where Indi-Love doesn't exist got upset and tried to take the cane from him

. What's up with that? On our yard it's ok for a Sigma Lady to hold a Nupe's cane and for a Nupe to hold a SGRho cane. We understand the historical bond between us and the cane. So my question is...Is there any reason why, in the spirit of Indi-Luv, we can't touch or exchange canes?

rho4life · #2 02-27-2006, 05:27 PM

I think this is just one of those regional things. Just to be on the safe side, and to be polite, I always ask before I touch someone else's cane unless I know them and know that it's cool. And I expect people to ask before they grab mine. It's just about manners, if you were at someone's house that you don't know that well, you don't go digging through their stuff, you ASK if you need something.

PS - When you come out to CA, you could borrow mine.

GoldenGlow2000 · #3 02-27-2006, 05:30 PM

All I can say is different strokes, for different folks. If the Soror let the bruh borrow the cane, I don't see the problem. I'm quite sure she knew what he would do with it.
As far as it goes, I am one for the Indi-love. I have received nothing but respect from the brothers I have met from Kappa Alpha Psi.

bluethunder · #4 02-28-2006, 09:29 PM

now, i must say that i LOVE me some K-A-Psi and Indiana Love is a BEAUTIFUL thing...

but when it comes to my cane, my philosophy is very simple:

i don't even want my mama touchin' the cane. i used to ride with my cane in the front windshield of my car and all my passengers (usually male friends) would reach for it, as if to touch it, but i would always stop them short of putting their fingers on it and tell them, "you don't wanna do that. it's not worth it."

but that's just me. i don't touch anybody else's cane, unless i have to-- like if its step practice or if we are at practice and someone didn't bring their wood.

MightyQuinn · #5 03-01-2006, 04:45 AM

Something just occurred to me- I've been a Delta for almost 11 years and I had no idea, until about 3 y ears ago, that there is an unwritten rule that you are not suppose to touch a Kappa's cane. Not that I've ever tried to or felt the urge to but I didn't know that it was a no no! I guess it's the fact that for one, I can honestly say I have had little to no contact with Kappas (although my dentist is a Kappa) and two when I have come into contact with them the cane thing was no where in the conversation. It's good to learn something new, even when you're far from being new!

NinjaPoodle · #6 03-01-2006, 03:29 PM

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Originally posted by GoldenGlow2000
All I can say is different strokes, for different folks. If the Soror let the bruh borrow the cane, I don't see the problem. I'm quite sure she knew what he would do with it.
As far as it goes, I am one for the Indi-love. I have received nothing but respect from the brothers I have met from Kappa Alpha Psi.

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Originally posted by rho4life
I think this is just one of those regional things. Just to be on the safe side, and to be polite, I always ask before I touch someone else's cane unless I know them and know that it's cool. And I expect people to ask before they grab mine. It's just about manners, if you were at someone's house that you don't know that well, you don't go digging through their stuff, you ASK if you need something.

PS - When you come out to CA, you could borrow mine.

I agree with my SoRHOrs.

Personally, I am also for the Indi-Love as they were the 1st to congratulate us after my sand and I crossed. I've never touched a Kappas Kane however I did ask one to show me a twirl.

NinjaPoodle · #7 03-02-2006, 03:02 PM

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Originally posted by NinjaPoodle
I agree with my SoRHOrs. Personally, I am also for the Indi-Love as they were the 1st to congratulate us after my sand and I crossed. I've never touched a Kappas Kane however I did ask one to show me a twirl.

OK...this changed last night. With permission, I twirled a Kappa kane (and didn't drop it

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GoldenGlow2000 · #8 03-02-2006, 03:15 PM

Congratulations!

NinjaPoodle · #9 03-02-2006, 08:31 PM

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Originally posted by GoldenGlow2000
Congratulations!

TRSimon · #10 03-06-2006, 12:11 PM

Well, some chapters I have seen are close like that. Some are not.

I like what Rho4life said about manners, though. I mean, you shouldn't go grabbing people's stuff without asking, even if they are a friend or family member.

marquise1911 · #11 03-06-2006, 01:07 PM

Thanx ladies... I really appreciate your feedback. I can understand your points, all of them. Oh yeah! Congrats NinjaPoodle!!! Keep at it. I've only seen one Sigma Lady twirl like (and better than some) a Nupe. Hopefully there will be many more. If you need more practice just ask, I'll happily let you borrow my cane.

NinjaPoodle · #12 03-06-2006, 07:37 PM

Awww... you're too kind.

Cyndeelov1922 · #13 04-07-2006, 08:51 AM

Frat...first let me start off by stating that I hope that this reply gets to you in the best of health...as for the message that you posted, I completely understand where you are coming from, but in my opinion if you're going to point the finger point it in both directions.
I entered the world of SGRho and Greekdom in Spring of 2003 in New Jersey, the frat that were on my yard showed me much luv and helped me & my other 2 sorors out to the best of their ability,however, frat on other yards did not. I remember one step show that I went to, I approached frat to show him some luv...he looked at me like I was crazy.
In the north that Indi-luv goes out the window, and frat shows more luv to AKA's and Zeta's rather than SGRho their "Sorors"...I'm not mad at it, you flock to who you flock to but my point is you have to take into consideration that that soror might not have gotten the luv that is shown on your yard on the yard that she currently repRHOsents. It also brings up the notion of better networking on both org's parts. (maybe a discussion

Much LUV Always
Cyndeelov1922
EEEEE-YOOOOOO

NV1922 · #14 05-01-2006, 08:39 PM

I have to agree with Cyndee. Up north its a different story. There's really no such thing as Indiana Luv up here. So therefore, I do not approach KAPsi in that manner. You have to remember that a lot of people in the tri-state area, for instance, tend to have their noses in the air; greek and gdi alike.

Now I don't like to call Kappas my bro if it is not universal. But I have been called Soror by them before and its kind of weird for me but I just greet them back. I'm never disrespectful.

Its kind of a shame because there are many of them who just don't like us enough to even say hi, as a fellow greek. But, it is what it is! No tears over here! ha-ha!

singing...pretty to the left of me!lol!

Cain · #15 05-02-2006, 12:58 AM

This is true, and I still think it's backwards. I pledged down in the deep south, but, I am originally from Indiana. The funny thing is, down here, we show the Rho's more love than the do back home. We taught the ladies how to twirl on campus and everything. It's all love. I wonder what has happened? It's bowling shoe ugly to me.......