Conduct Becoming of A Sorority Girl

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Here's an example of what I think you were looking for, James.
I was an alumna advisor, and one of our collegians was in trouble for having sex with a fraternity member on the fraternity's pool table, and another incident in a phone booth. When pulled up before standards, she said that her sex life was none of our business. Usually true, I replied. But when everyone, including your advisors, knows of your sex life because it is being conducted in public, then it is our business. Everyone at this small school knew she was a Gamma Phi, and she was hurting the entire sisterhood by her blatant disregard for the sorority's reputation. She stormed upstairs, with me following close behind to get her badge.
The problem wasn't that she was having sex. The problem was she was doing it on the Sigma Nu's pool table. And in the phone booth. And God knows where else . . .

Am I the only one hoping that she had the class to replace the felt on the pool table?

[AOII Angel]

At my campus each chapter had very restrictive rules for sisters whether or not they were in letters. No dancing with a drink in your hand. No smoking in public. No visiting frat houses after 2am. Some may think this is ridiculous. These women are adults and should be allowed to do as they please. BUT, these women also chose to be members of organizations with standards.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

At my campus each chapter had very restrictive rules for sisters whether or not they were in letters. No dancing with a drink in your hand. No smoking in public. No visiting frat houses after 2am. Some may think this is ridiculous. These women are adults and should be allowed to do as they please. BUT, these women also chose to be members of organizations with standards.

Do these women know when they accept their bids that they'll be forced to possibly alter their behavior as a condition of membership? I mean, groups and rushees are told not to talk about drinking or smoking or boys at rush, how could they know they'll have to conduct themselves in a certain manner regarding these things? Do you tell them that during rush or on bid night?

And as for all these girls who are apart of (actually, the proper grammar would we "apart from") a sorority, I don't understand how anything they do would matter since they're not members.

[Leslie Anne]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Do these women know when they accept their bids that they'll be forced to possibly alter their behavior as a condition of membership? I mean, groups and rushees are told not to talk about drinking or smoking or boys at rush, how could they know they'll have to conduct themselves in a certain manner regarding these things? Do you tell them that during rush or on bid night?

I think you learn a lot about what is acceptable behavior and what isn't during the New Member period. You either get with the program or you take a hike.

Originally Posted by 33girl

We've got a lot of chapters at small schools with untraditional populations. To ignore that fact and/or not embrace it there would hinder our recruitment abilities.

But, do you really want to be recruiting strippers and girls posing nude in magazines?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Leslie Anne

I think you learn a lot about what is acceptable behavior and what isn't during the New Member period. You either get with the program or you take a hike.

That wasn't my question. My question is do the girls know what they're getting into before they pay fees for rush or sign a bid that binds them for a year to this group. Considering the poster said all the sororities on her campus are like this, I'm guessing the possible membership pool is pretty homogenous and they're not going to complain about Draconian rules.

Originally Posted by Leslie Anne

But, do you really want to be recruiting strippers and girls posing nude in magazines?

I'd rather have a stripper or a centerfold who is an active member and a loving sister than a born again Christian who blows off all her duties and continually hurts other sisters by her lack of support. But I guess my priorities are just messed up.

[cuteASAbug]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I'd rather have a stripper or a centerfold who is an active member and a loving sister than a born again Christian who blows off all her duties and continually hurts other sisters by her lack of support. But I guess my priorities are just messed up.

And this is why I'm so proud to be your sister.

[Leslie Anne]

Originally Posted by 33girl

That wasn't my question. My question is do the girls know what they're getting into before they pay fees for rush or sign a bid that binds them for a year to this group. Considering the poster said all the sororities on her campus are like this, I'm guessing the possible membership pool is pretty homogenous and they're not going to complain about Draconian rules.

No, I suppose they don't know.

Originally Posted by 33girl

I'd rather have a stripper or a centerfold who is an active member and a loving sister than a born again Christian who blows off all her duties and continually hurts other sisters by her lack of support.

Actually, so would I. But I guess I was thinking that something in the middle might be nice.

[AOII Angel]

I don't think you have to go to such extremes...the hooker with the heart of gold versus a sister who is a christian backstabber! Most girls who choose not to follow the rules of the chapter are not good sisters. When you join a sorority you change a lot of things. Following the ideals of the group is the biggest change, so I don't think following little rules like acting like a lady in public to protect the integrity of your chapter is asking too much. Anyway, breaking the little rules wouldn't get you kicked out but would get you reprimanded gently. Furthermore, you can't tell rushees everything before they pledge...there is simply not time. That is one reason for the new member period...they learn whether or not the ideals of the sorority fit their own before making the situation permanent. By going through initiation you agree to follow the rules set forth by the group. Wow that was long winded!

[CZAXOTerp]

Originally Posted by Leslie Anne

I think you learn a lot about what is acceptable behavior and what isn't during the New Member period. You either get with the program or you take a hike.



But, do you really want to be recruiting strippers and girls posing nude in magazines?

Both of these girls made these career choices after being initiated... although I will say that the girl who ended up as Miss Oct. 98 was "known" when she went through rush.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by honeychile

Am I the only one hoping that she had the class to replace the felt on the pool table?

You know the guy like signed the thing or something. Or just marked off a tally. Guys have a way different mindset on that sort of thing...