Conduct Becoming of A Sorority Girl

[susan314]

Originally Posted by 33girl

People going buck wild on spring break thinking they won't get busted crack me up. Hello mensa, if you book the trip through your school, don't you think someone else (or a lot of someone elses) from your school might be there too?

lol...I know. I think they thought they were safe, because they deliberately tried to plan a trip at a different destination from where most people on our campus were going that year. And they hadn't happened to bump into anyone they had recognized during the early part of their trip. (The wet t-shirt contest happened later in the trip, when they were running out of money.)

You have to give the guys of Theta Delta Chi some credit though - they could have come back and gossiped about it with their brothers (I'm sure they may have shared some details, but it never became a well known story), or they could have come back and tried to spread the gossip around our chapter. But they did a good job helping to keep it fairly discreet. I do think they occasionally joked to them about having "blackmail material," but it was all in good fun and not a real threat.

[NutBrnHair]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Maybe in your chapter, but not in your whole sorority, and certainly not in mine.

I believe you.

[SWTXBelle]

Hey, Susan, her arguement was not only had she won - she beat a Chi O!!!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by NutBrnHair

I believe you.

OMG - looks like I just got



OMGWTFBBQ!!!!

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I think it's very funny that you assume the groups on my campus were uptight or nit picky. We have rules....OH MY GOD!!! I had many sisters who would qualify as sluts by most people's standards, but they were discreet. I had a sister who broke her jaw after she was kicked in the face by a man who we all thought was selling her drugs. We didn't know for sure, but it wouldn't have surprised any of us. She didn't get kicked out....she was well liked and accepted. Nobody actually was kicked out of my chapter or any other chapter during the time I was a member. We all put up with a lot of crap, but if we started being known as the "sluts" or the "druggies" some heads would have rolled. But...that's my campus...and it did work. Maybe at your campus, squirrel, every chapter has their open sluts and crackheads so no one group is ostracized for it....more power to y'all, but THAT doesn't work at most campuses.

Yes, it's nitpicky in my opinion. It just seems like there's a contradiction...it's so INCREDIBLY important not to (gasp for air at the audacity) drink on the dance floor but I mean...possible drug dealing relations? Eh...we'll let it go. You are making an incredibly inconsistent arguement...at first it was all about image and now you claim to have possible drug relations and "discreet" sluts (the truth is, it's never discreet if anyone knows but the two involved). So why in the world worry about a drink on a dance floor? I mean really...that's really ridiculous...if image is so important that you couldn't get a pledge class if a sister held a drink while dancing or smoked without crossing her legs or something I suggest re-evaluating.

Don't bother acting all offended...sorry but I do and will think the logic here (or lack thereof) is baffling. No, on my campus I doubt open crackheads would work (personally I've never met one) and yes, every chapter has at least A hobag...and as it's college, so does every chapter everywhere.
I just thank the lord we're lookin' out for something besides nitpicky rules...respecting letters is one thing, this is another. Rules, written or not, about things deemed by the MAJORITY of society to be immoral are reasonable, as are rules regarding respect towards letters. I guess you have problems differentiating but I assure you, those sorts of rules and a list of rules regarding your every movement on campus (and of course image is everything...that's why it makes total sense that you would completely just go down the drain if you drink on the dance floor...but I mean drugs and sluts are cool...just not like, holding your cigarette in the wrong hand while you cross your legs the other way...) are different. The logic does not follow.

I guess we're just more about sisterhood here, so I don't understand chapters like that. I am grateful even more for the five here...no one has to change themselves as a person to fit in because "image is everything"...I think we're all more interested in fun, being ourselves, and companionship. The kind of greek system in which image (however contradictory the definition is) is more important than sisterhood is one I do not want to be associated with.

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

Silly me, I thought that sisterhood was everything in a sorority.

No, you're confused. It's image. I mean why join a sorority for friends and sisterhood? That's crap...it's ALL about how you hold your drink. Geez. Seriously you should get your priorities straight.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl

No, you're confused. It's image. I mean why join a sorority for friends and sisterhood? That's crap...it's ALL about how you hold your drink. Geez. Seriously you should get your priorities straight.

I thought it was all about what color your letter jerseys were.


Kidding.

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I thought it was all about what color your letter jerseys were.


Kidding.

Eh. Funny.

Respect is a big issue for me...which is why the colors are a big deal to me as well as promoting sisterhood over image. I get worked up. Some of these posts are straight out of Pledged.

[susan314]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Hey, Susan, her arguement was not only had she won - she beat a Chi O!!!

That is just too funny. I wonder if Chi O disciplined their member as well, and if so, whether the fact that she lost to a GPhiB was considered.

[AOII Angel]

I certainly never said image is more important than sisterhood. That's ridiculous! I would, though, like to see this utopia you describe that is your campus where no one judges, no one gossips and everyone is happy being strippers if they want. I would love to believe it, only I know human nature, and I have a modicum of common sense. You can't get rid of any of this. The point of maintaining a good image is to not have a bad reputation eclipse your sisterhood. If you want to jump on me for that go ahead, but I have to tell you that picking words out of my posts and twisting them for your own bizarre needs does nothing but make you look silly. They certainly don't make me feel small or petty or less sisterly. I have much better self esteem than that! Not to mention I think this is a stupid argument...I don't think either of us really thinks the other is that far on the polar ends of this debate. I also will not debate that the rules I mentioned earlier are strange...but they are the rules of the group. No one has asked to have them change so I'm not sure what the big deal is!

[AlphaFrog]

I request that the OP (who is also a Mod and has the ability to do this) changes the title to reflect that we are not Sorority Girls, we are Sorority Women.

Hey, someone had to say something we can all agree on.

[AOII Angel]

Thanks for changing the tone of the room Alpha....I guess it's good to have some peacemakers in this world!

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I certainly never said image is more important than sisterhood. That's ridiculous! I would, though, like to see this utopia you describe that is your campus where no one judges, no one gossips and everyone is happy being strippers if they want. I would love to believe it, only I know human nature, and I have a modicum of common sense. You can't get rid of any of this. The point of maintaining a good image is to not have a bad reputation eclipse your sisterhood. If you want to jump on me for that go ahead, but I have to tell you that picking words out of my posts and twisting them for your own bizarre needs does nothing but make you look silly. They certainly don't make me feel small or petty or less sisterly. I have much better self esteem than that! Not to mention I think this is a stupid argument...I don't think either of us really thinks the other is that far on the polar ends of this debate. I also will not debate that the rules I mentioned earlier are strange...but they are the rules of the group. No one has asked to have them change so I'm not sure what the big deal is!

1. You might need to either read more slowly or review reading comprehension skills. I did not say a) that my campus is a utopia b) that no one judges c) that no one gossip d) anything whatsoever about strippers.
2. Your arguement was that it was vital that your girls not drink on the dance floor because that is bad image. And then you say that you have a slut in the sorority and a possible druggie. Now...you tell ME if that makes sense? Petty "ettiquette" over the big issues?
3. If you think things like smoking with uncrossed legs, eating while walking, or drinking on the dance floor will so damage your sisterhood that the entire campus will think you are bad girls...again, look at what you've already said. I can't fathom the incredibly stupid herd that would shun a chapter because a sister ate a hot dog while walking but would completely ignore a slut or a druggie. If that's where people's priorities are...I don't think you're getting your money's worth.
4. As I had said earlier, there are things that are deemed immoral by the majority of society including, for instance, sleeping around a lot, being a consistent sloppy drunk, doing drugs, or most importantly just being a mean person. Every organization must have rules to function. My point was that they are in my opinion extremely nit picky in your case and seem to TOTALLY miss the point if, as you say, it's ok to do nothing about sluts/druggies but not to hold a drink when not sitting.
5. I'm actually supremely unconcerened about how I look in this particular arguement. See number one before telling me I make myself look silly in an arguement. Revise. Then try to make me feel silly.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

Thanks for changing the tone of the room Alpha....I guess it's good to have some peacemakers in this world!

Did this make anyone else laugh? I mean, considering 98% of the time, I'm the instigator instead of the peacemaker. I'm just feeling weird today.

Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl

5. I'm actually supremely unconcerened about how I look in this particular arguement. See number one before telling me I make myself look silly in an arguement. Revise. Then try to make me feel silly.

I am so proud to call you my sister.

You win at the internets for this.

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