my recruitment experience so far

[lacavazzini]

got my invites back for the third round: philanthropy

got invited back to:
teal
red
orange
pink

[FSUZeta]

good for you- are you able to attend them all, or did you have to decline some invitations? when is the philanthrophy round?

[lacavazzini]

philanthropy is tomorrow friday feb 16 and saturday feb 17. i can attend all 4, the max is 5 but i didnt get invites back from 5. my top 2 sororities are still in the 4 i have left. is there anything you guys reccommend saying that would let the girls know that im really interested in their sorority that may help my chances of getting invited back for preference without sounding obsessed?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by lacavazzini

Is there anything you guys reccommend saying that would let the girls know that im really interested in their sorority that may help my chances of getting invited back for preference without sounding obsessed?

Honestly, just continue being yourself. If you were to start being overly "OMG I LOVE YOUR SORORITY SO MUCH AND I HOPE YOU INVITE ME BACK!" the sororities would get kind of creeped out. My best advice is to just keep smiling, be genuinely interested in learning about the different philanthropies, and be attentive during conversation (you don't want to send off rude vibes by looking like you aren't listening to someone).

Also, keep and open mind about every chapter you're visiting.

[WVU alpha phi]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Honestly, just continue being yourself. If you were to start being overly "OMG I LOVE YOUR SORORITY SO MUCH AND I HOPE YOU INVITE ME BACK!" the sororities would get kind of creeped out. My best advice is to just keep smiling, be genuinely interested in learning about the different philanthropies, and be attentive during conversation (you don't want to send off rude vibes by looking like you aren't listening to someone).

Very true. We had a girl come through rush two years ago that we STILL refer to as Alpha Phi Stalker. She knew EVERYTHING about us, it was pretty weird. Funny thing is that I think she actually ended up pledging another sorority. But still, I agree with KSUViolet, just act really interested, ask questions, and it's OK to say something like "I really love it here" as long as you're not repeating it constantly or something.

[Buttonz]

I'm glad you like your choices that you have left.

I would make sure that they know that your having a good time and having fun.

[lacavazzini]

i mentioned this before but i wanted to know if this helps me at all .. my cousin is an active in my top sorority .. if i've made it through to the third round(philanthropy), would you guys feel bad about dropping a senior active's cousin or giving her a bad comment on her review?

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by lacavazzini

i mentioned this before but i wanted to know if this helps me at all .. my cousin is an active in my top sorority .. if i've made it through to the third round(philanthropy), would you guys feel bad about dropping a senior active's cousin or giving her a bad comment on her review?

No, especially if she thought she had a great chance at joining just because she's a legacy. You are your own person, not an extension of your relative and if you don't mesh well with the chapter, I won't hesitate to drop or make a bad comment.

[lacavazzini]

no i definitely dont think im getting in just because i have a family member in my top choice .. i think i really clicked with the girls and a lot of the girls have said they had heard about me from my cousin and were excited to meet me .. im just really stressed out with classes and rushing and other things that i need a little bit of comfort and wanted to know if this helps me in the least. i know everyone ends up where they belong but ive heard this so much im starting to doubt it and think girls say it just to say it.

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally Posted by lacavazzini

i mentioned this before but i wanted to know if this helps me at all .. my cousin is an active in my top sorority .. if i've made it through to the third round(philanthropy), would you guys feel bad about dropping a senior active's cousin or giving her a bad comment on her review?

I would express my opinion as needed. I wouldn't care who she knew.

[Denise_DPhiE]

Originally Posted by lacavazzini

i mentioned this before but i wanted to know if this helps me at all .. my cousin is an active in my top sorority .. if i've made it through to the third round(philanthropy), would you guys feel bad about dropping a senior active's cousin or giving her a bad comment on her review?

I would not feel bad AT ALL. My chapter has dropped chapter sister legacies at least three times. Chapter sister legacies as in they grew up in the same house which is a lot closer relation than cousin. The active sister got over it and her sister found a home in another sorority in all three cases (and we always make quota so national office is fine with this as long as the VP Recruitment files proper paperwork)

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by lacavazzini

would you guys feel bad about dropping a senior active's cousin or giving her a bad comment on her review?

We've already established that you are probably not a legacy. You are equivalent to someone in the chapter having a good friend go through. They know more about you than other PNMs, which means that they will be better able to determine whether you are a good fit for the chapter. If something needs to be said, it gets said.

I am glad that you have more than one choice remaining that you like! Have fun tonight!

[KSUViolet06]

I echo everyone else when I say please keep your options open. You never know what might happen with recruitment and you want to have at least one other chapter at this point that you really like, just in case your top choice doesn't invite you back.

Also, I wouldn't personally feel bad about dropping one of my sister's cousins. When participating in recruitment as a sorority member, you understand that the process is all about finding the best women for the chapter, even if that means cutting someone who is related to one of your sisters. If we took women just to avoid hurting feelings, then we wouldn't be doing what is best for our chapter.

[Mercergirl2010]

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Originally Posted by Mercergirl2010

No news yet??? I wanna know what happened!

Being that it's been six days since her last post, we can at least assume one of the following:

a) She received a bid and has been too busy to update GC because she's having way too much fun with her new sisters

or

b) Bid day didn't go as she hoped and doesn't want to face GC. (We've seen it before)