Egg Donation

FSUZeta · #1 01-25-2007, 06:01 PM

that sounds awfully picky for infertile couples to request photos of the donor at different stages in life as well as those of family members.

33girl · #2 01-25-2007, 06:09 PM

I don't think so. Not everyone wants to be open about the fact that their child is not "theirs" biologically. Peoples' looks can change a great deal over the course of their life - even if it looks like the recipients when it's a child, that may not be the case at 20 or 30.

#3 01-25-2007, 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

that sounds awfully picky for infertile couples to request photos of the donor at different stages in life as well as those of family members.

My friend didn't mind. She wanted that $$$, so she was willing to go along with whatever the couple and clinic wanted. This was all preliminary, wayyy before she went through the hormones. If the couple decided they didn't want my friend as their donor, they simply said "thank you" and moved on. You'd be surprised at the number of girls on my campus who actually signed up to do this.

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I don't think so. Not everyone wants to be open about the fact that their child is not "theirs" biologically. Peoples' looks can change a great deal over the course of their life - even if it looks like the recipients when it's a child, that may not be the case at 20 or 30.

Exactly. Vicky (my friend) was very blonde as a child. As she grew up, her hair got darker and her Asian features became more dominant than her European features. Lucky for her, the couple she donated to had similar ethnic backgrounds. The child she helped create is now 5, I believe.

Munchkin03 · #4 01-25-2007, 08:01 PM

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that sounds awfully picky for infertile couples to request photos of the donor at different stages in life as well as those of family members.

Exactly how is that picky?

These couples spend $15,000 and up just for the egg donation--that doesn't count IVF for the woman who gives birth and all the related stuff that's not covered by insurance. These people are spending some serious money, so I'm not too surprised that they are being educated consumers.

valkyrie · #5 01-25-2007, 08:12 PM

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Exactly how is that picky?

These couples spend $15,000 and up just for the egg donation--that doesn't count IVF for the woman who gives birth and all the related stuff that's not covered by insurance. These people are spending some serious money, so I'm not too surprised that they are being educated consumers.

For reals. You wouldn't want to spend a big wad of cash and go through all the stress and medical crap to end up with a stupid gremlin of a kid.

OtterXO · #6 01-25-2007, 08:27 PM

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For reals. You wouldn't want to spend a big wad of cash and go through all the stress and medical crap to end up with a stupid gremlin of a kid.

Seriously, I think knowing if your donor suffered from severe acne in their teen years, etc is important.

_Lisa_ · #7 01-25-2007, 08:42 PM

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Seriously, I think knowing if your donor suffered from severe acne in their teen years, etc is important.

The clinic can tell the potential parents information just like that. You fill out questionnaires, provide photographs, etc. Not all of them share the photographs with the potential parents though, most likely for the donor's privacy.

SapphireSphinx9 · #8 01-25-2007, 09:35 PM

one of my bf's co-workers (and really good friend) decided to donate her eggs, i think a total of 3 different times - 2 times to the same family.

she told me that even though she met with the parents, she declined the option to meet with the children once they were older.

i don't think i could personally go through with it... but it was perfect for her because she doesn't want to have kids, and the money helped her get through school.

FSUZeta · #9 01-26-2007, 09:45 AM

well, i just feel that these women who donate their eggs are giving infertile couples such a tremendous gift(even if there is monetary compensation) with the egg donation. i would be a lot more concerned with the health history of the donor and her family members, than her physical appearance.

with fertile couples, there is no guarantee that their child will look like either parent-the child might end up looking like great-uncle fred or cousin gertrude.