Egg Donation

[cutie_cat_4ever]

I've read an article in a magazine about this one women who was desperately trying to find an egg donor but end up disappointed becuase 1. A good amount of eggs end up being a poor donor; 2. The psychological effects. Some donors who originally promised to donate ended up backing up becuase they were afraid and couldn't bear the thought of having a child outside who shares their genes.

Knowing how badly some women wanted to have kids but couldn't have it is a painful feeling. If you feel that your eggs would be a good donor and you're sure that you won't feel any psychological effects afterwards (like trying to search for the child), then I would say go for it. It would definitely help a lot of women out there

[_Lisa_]

Originally Posted by cutie_cat_4ever

2. The psychological effects. Some donors who originally promised to donate ended up backing up becuase they were afraid and couldn't bear the thought of having a child outside who shares their genes.

A lot of reputable clinics have the donors go through psychological evaluations for this reason specifically. They want women to donate, but want to be sure they aren't at risk for asking to have their child once it is born or being depressed afterwards.

The clinic I had contacted pays for you to come & stay near the clinic for several weeks surrounding the donation. You take hormones, have psychological evaluations, doctor visits, the whole deal.

[AlphaFrog]

One website I read, complied by a NY Special Task force, said that it can range, as with adoption from complete anonymity, to meeting with the potential recipient, to keeping in contact, to actually being a part of the child's life as a "special family friend".

I think if I did it, I would want to meet the couple, and that's about it. I don't think I'd want to keep in contact or pictures or anything.

[OtterXO]

I was approached by a couple I knew to donate an egg. I went through all the paperwork/psych testing and then ended up backing out because they wanted to have the child meet me later on in life when the kid started asking questions....I just didn't know if I could handle that. I think it's a great thing to do for someone but definitely think about all the possibillities of the psychological/emotional issues that may arise

[Munchkin03]

I believe most of the egg donation centers (or, maybe just the parents themselves) usually prefer women with spotless medical histories, who aren't obese, and who have good test scores. I guess it would be different if you knew the couple.

In my college newspaper, there would always be requests for potential egg donors.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I believe most of the egg donation centers (or, maybe just the parents themselves) usually prefer women with spotless medical histories, who aren't obese, and who have good test scores. I guess it would be different if you knew the couple.

In my college newspaper, there would always be requests for potential egg donors.

Mine too!

[valkyrie]

Do you get to see pictures of the donors when selecting eggs? I'd totally want to so I could pick someone hot. I'm serious. I mean, that's what I'd do if I'd ever in a million years even consider having anything to do with egg donation, LOL. She'd have to be a totally hot genius.

[OtterXO]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I believe most of the egg donation centers (or, maybe just the parents themselves) usually prefer women with spotless medical histories, who aren't obese, and who have good test scores. I guess it would be different if you knew the couple.

In my college newspaper, there would always be requests for potential egg donors.

The agency I almost went through was very picky about all that stuff too....I think except the test scores, but the couple knew I did well on my SATs and LSATs and was in law school (at the time) so i think they were fine with it. The agency was particular about the weight/height ratio and any genetic medical issues or emotional issues. I think it's good they're strict though...if you're choosing someone for an egg you SHOULD be particular.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

Mine too!

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I believe most of the egg donation centers (or, maybe just the parents themselves) usually prefer women with spotless medical histories, who aren't obese, and who have good test scores. I guess it would be different if you knew the couple.

In my college newspaper, there would always be requests for potential egg donors.

same here. in a somewhat related note, a classmate of mine did egg donation as a year-long independent study. she was pretty perfect in respect to what infertile couples would want (from what i know, blonde, blue-eyed, smart, athletic, etc) and did it as video documentary/blog. win situation for her - she made her $$, and got 8 school credits for it.

of course she got an A - i mean, that would be some professor to give anything less. i know i wouldnt want anything less for a project i put that much of myself into.