What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I'd make fun of you, too.

People who make fun are usually jealous and they probably wish they could be so lucky.

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by OTW

People who make fun are usually jealous and they probably wish they could be so lucky.

Nah, I'm one of the luckiest humans on the Earth and I would probably tease her about this, even on a first date - however, it would be just that: teasing. I'm not sure there's really a difference, but it would probably be funny to joke about (especially w/ the mutual sarcasm thing), and first dates are all about getting over that kind of thing.

Also I can't imagine why any of this (other than maybe 'rents as doctors) would ever come up, so it's probably moot.

However, now that I think about it, I'm pretty sure I tease her for this right now, so I'm probably not the best judge. I'm definitely the mayor of my own town over here . . .

[FAB*SpiceySpice]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

Nah, I'm one of the luckiest humans on the Earth and I would probably tease her about this, even on a first date - however, it would be just that: teasing. I'm not sure there's really a difference, but it would probably be funny to joke about (especially w/ the mutual sarcasm thing), and first dates are all about getting over that kind of thing.

Also I can't imagine why any of this (other than maybe 'rents as doctors) would ever come up, so it's probably moot.

However, now that I think about it, I'm pretty sure I tease her for this right now, so I'm probably not the best judge. I'm definitely the mayor of my own town over here . . .

Thanks Rob, I love you too. I don't know why this kind of thing comes up as often as it does, but sadly it happens. If a guy asks me about my job (and I never hardly had one in college) he would always want to know how I could pay any of my bills with no income, people are just nosy I guess. And if they ever saw my car or even my stupid car keys (yeah that happened once) they'd immediately make fun of me for it. I can deal with teasing, that's not a problem, but I can also tell the difference between being teased (sarcasm or whatever) and someone who actually thinks less of me as a person b/c of these things.

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by FAB*SpiceySpice

Thanks Rob, I love you too. I don't know why this kind of thing comes up as often as it does, but sadly it happens. If a guy asks me about my job (and I never hardly had one in college) he would always want to know how I could pay any of my bills with no income, people are just nosy I guess. And if they ever saw my car or even my stupid car keys (yeah that happened once) they'd immediately make fun of me for it. I can deal with teasing, that's not a problem, but I can also tell the difference between being teased (sarcasm or whatever) and someone who actually thinks less of me as a person b/c of these things.

Yeah - word, it's also probably the difference between growing up/going to school with people who drove Lexuses and didn't have to work (like, uh, the chapter ksigkid and I were in) and being used to it on some level, versus some sort of "we against they" mentality . . . the classic "oh you're one of those rich kids" uncomfortable reaction?

I can't imagine a bigger red flag than "thinking less of me as a person because of things that really aren't in my control" (which is essentially how this parses, when you really break it down) - well, maybe like "punching me in the face" or "locking kids in the car to meet for drinks at the bar" but there simply aren't many bigger.

[FAB*SpiceySpice]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

I can't imagine a bigger red flag than "thinking less of me as a person because of things that really aren't in my control" (which is essentially how this parses, when you really break it down).

Exactly what I was trying to get at, thank you.