DARK/LIGHT...SKIN COLOR.........Is this still an issue? Let's be honest Sorors & SF'

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by black_princess

Just to weigh in. . .I have a friend who is my age (22) and from the Northeast. She says that her mother told her from a young age that she should not bring home any dark-skined men, especially if they are (in her words) "blue -black" . She told my friend that she won't be able to see her kids if she does. Mind you, my friend, her mother and my friends father are not fair skinned. So I just find the whole situation funny and sad at the same time.

Today, my friend says that she just seems to be drawn to lighter side, but in her mind doesn't have a preference. She just happens not to meet any darker men. Also, whenerver she is describing a handsome man you can definately hear the passion in her voice when its a light skinned man as compared to a darker man. I'm not saying that anything's wrong if she has this preference, I just wonder how different would her choices be if mom hadn't planted those early seeds.

That's krazy. I've always heard that most women, black or white are more attracted to men with a darker complexion than men with a lighter complexion. Correction. I see it more often. I see a lot of men with a lighter complexion with darker women, and vise versa.

[hellocutie]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I see a lot of men with a lighter complexion with darker women, and vise versa.

I see that a lot too. My boyfriend is has a lighter complexion and I have a darker complexion, and it's funny because he told me that he has always been attracted to browner women. His father, who is as fair as they come, also has a darker skinned wife. He may have gotten his preference from his father in an indirect way.

[pinkies up]

That's funny. My brother and I both have light complexions and we are both attracted to people with darker skin tones. I've dated guys with light skin, but for some reason I was always afraid if we had kids they'd be see thru. (just kidding) I was always attracted to guys darker than me.

[GIJANE]

I am glad to see this topic addressed in this forum. As a brown complexioned woman, neither light nor dark, I feel sort of out of place sometimes in dark or light discussions.
I go to a bar in Columbus, OH frequented by whites and I am typically the only black person there. I used to get stared at, but now they see me as a regular. I haven't heard many conversations centered around the tone of my skin. They typically comment on my attractiveness in general, but never on the fact that I am black.
I used to also believe that AKAs were light and Delta's were darker skinned, until I did my research and saw pictures of each set of founders and saw the truth. I believe that the paper bag tests and so forth were ridiculous due to the fact that both sororities had founders of different complexions.
I wish the world would realize that your skin tone does not determine your intelligence or level of beauty.
In regard to color preference in dating, I was always equal opportunity and dated who approached me. I am not sure if I care about how light the man is or not, as long as he treats me right.
BTW, I have dated white men too.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by pinkies up

That's funny. My brother and I both have light complexions and we are both attracted to people with darker skin tones. I've dated guys with light skin, but for some reason I was always afraid if we had kids they'd be see thru. (just kidding) I was always attracted to guys darker than me.

My mom said she chose my dad who's darker so her kids wouldn't be bleached out. There are 3 of us and we are 3 different shades. LOL. I guess she chose the right guy. For me, it doesn't matter what color. Light or dark, as long as I'm attracted to her inside and out.

[southernelle25]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

My mom said she chose my dad who's darker so her kids wouldn't be bleached out. There are 3 of us and we are 3 different shades. LOL. I guess she chose the right guy. For me, it doesn't matter what color. Light or dark, as long as I'm attracted to her inside and out.

I wonder how common this is, that people on both ends of the spectrum purposefully gravitate toward the opposite end so as to produce children in the middle.

[jubilance1922]

Originally Posted by southernelle25

I wonder how common this is, that people on both ends of the spectrum purposefully gravitate toward the opposite end so as to produce children in the middle.

I know my parents did...my mom is very light and my father is very dark...All of us kids get darker as you go from oldest to youngest.

My father grew up during the Civil Rights era and "Black is beautiful" so I don't feel that I have a color complex. I love my brown-skinned self, and I love all the shades that we come in. I don't gravitate towards strictly light-skinned or dark-skinned men.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by southernelle25

I wonder how common this is, that people on both ends of the spectrum purposefully gravitate toward the opposite end so as to produce children in the middle.

If people choose their mates based on that logic then they are idiots.

I remember this brown skin dude I knew who had finely textured hair and light eyes. Someone walked up to him, rubbed his hair and said "you're good for breeding."

[black_princess]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

If people choose their mates based on that logic then they are idiots.

I remember this brown skin dude I knew who had finely textured hair and light eyes. Someone walked up to him, rubbed his hair and said "you're good for breeding."

what did he say . .. was he totally offended or did he think that was a complement?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

If people choose their mates based on that logic then they are idiots.

I remember this brown skin dude I knew who had finely textured hair and light eyes. Someone walked up to him, rubbed his hair and said "you're good for breeding."

When I was in highschool some lady did that to me. She said "Nice head of hair" feeling it at the same time.