DARK/LIGHT...SKIN COLOR.........Is this still an issue? Let's be honest Sorors & SF'

nonchalant · #1 10-15-2006, 01:18 PM

I believe this is still an issue. Most of this stems from peoples upbringing as well as their surroundings. As stated in a previous thread, I was raised to think light is right. There isn't a need to put a paper bag next to me, for my mother didn't allow us to play in the daylight. Once you grow and become educated and open-minded, you realize those things were petty. I still love my light skinned pretty boys over the chocolate men. Now that's just a personal preference.

cjoanell · #2 10-16-2006, 02:07 PM

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I believe this is still an issue. Most of this stems from peoples upbringing as well as their surroundings. As stated in a previous thread, I was raised to think light is right. There isn't a need to put a paper bag next to me, for my mother didn't allow us to play in the daylight. Once you grow and become educated and open-minded, you realize those things were petty. I still love my light skinned pretty boys over the chocolate men. Now that's just a personal preference.

PrettyBoy · #3 10-18-2006, 02:35 AM

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LOL

PrettyBoy · #4 10-18-2006, 02:33 AM

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I believe this is still an issue. Most of this stems from peoples upbringing as well as their surroundings. As stated in a previous thread, I was raised to think light is right. There isn't a need to put a paper bag next to me, for my mother didn't allow us to play in the daylight. Once you grow and become educated and open-minded, you realize those things were petty. I still love my light skinned pretty boys over the chocolate men. Now that's just a personal preference.

Was your mom from the South? It seems like that's where a lot of this stuff is still happening.

DSTCHAOS · #5 10-18-2006, 09:43 AM

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Was your mom from the South? It seems like that's where a lot of this stuff is still happening.

Looks are very deceiving.

PrettyBoy · #6 10-20-2006, 01:35 AM

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Looks are very deceiving.

So, so true.

nonchalant · #7 10-28-2006, 11:46 PM

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Was your mom from the South? It seems like that's where a lot of this stuff is still happening.

Yes. She was born and raised in Alabama.

black_princess · #8 10-29-2006, 01:33 AM

Just to weigh in. . .I have a friend who is my age (22) and from the Northeast. She says that her mother told her from a young age that she should not bring home any dark-skined men, especially if they are (in her words) "blue -black" . She told my friend that she won't be able to see her kids if she does. Mind you, my friend, her mother and my friends father are not fair skinned. So I just find the whole situation funny and sad at the same time.

Today, my friend says that she just seems to be drawn to lighter side, but in her mind doesn't have a preference. She just happens not to meet any darker men. Also, whenerver she is describing a handsome man you can definately hear the passion in her voice when its a light skinned man as compared to a darker man. I'm not saying that anything's wrong if she has this preference, I just wonder how different would her choices be if mom hadn't planted those early seeds.

PrettyBoy · #9 10-29-2006, 02:08 AM

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Just to weigh in. . .I have a friend who is my age (22) and from the Northeast. She says that her mother told her from a young age that she should not bring home any dark-skined men, especially if they are (in her words) "blue -black" . She told my friend that she won't be able to see her kids if she does. Mind you, my friend, her mother and my friends father are not fair skinned. So I just find the whole situation funny and sad at the same time.

Today, my friend says that she just seems to be drawn to lighter side, but in her mind doesn't have a preference. She just happens not to meet any darker men. Also, whenerver she is describing a handsome man you can definately hear the passion in her voice when its a light skinned man as compared to a darker man. I'm not saying that anything's wrong if she has this preference, I just wonder how different would her choices be if mom hadn't planted those early seeds.

That's krazy. I've always heard that most women, black or white are more attracted to men with a darker complexion than men with a lighter complexion. Correction. I see it more often. I see a lot of men with a lighter complexion with darker women, and vise versa.

hellocutie · #10 10-29-2006, 07:45 PM

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I see a lot of men with a lighter complexion with darker women, and vise versa.

I see that a lot too. My boyfriend is has a lighter complexion and I have a darker complexion, and it's funny because he told me that he has always been attracted to browner women. His father, who is as fair as they come, also has a darker skinned wife. He may have gotten his preference from his father in an indirect way.

pinkies up · #11 10-29-2006, 10:50 PM

That's funny. My brother and I both have light complexions and we are both attracted to people with darker skin tones. I've dated guys with light skin, but for some reason I was always afraid if we had kids they'd be see thru. (just kidding) I was always attracted to guys darker than me.