DARK/LIGHT...SKIN COLOR.........Is this still an issue? Let's be honest Sorors & SF'

PrettyBoy · #1 10-30-2006, 12:32 AM

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That's funny. My brother and I both have light complexions and we are both attracted to people with darker skin tones. I've dated guys with light skin, but for some reason I was always afraid if we had kids they'd be see thru. (just kidding) I was always attracted to guys darker than me.

My mom said she chose my dad who's darker so her kids wouldn't be bleached out. There are 3 of us and we are 3 different shades. LOL. I guess she chose the right guy. For me, it doesn't matter what color. Light or dark, as long as I'm attracted to her inside and out.

southernelle25 · #2 10-30-2006, 12:25 PM

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My mom said she chose my dad who's darker so her kids wouldn't be bleached out. There are 3 of us and we are 3 different shades. LOL. I guess she chose the right guy. For me, it doesn't matter what color. Light or dark, as long as I'm attracted to her inside and out.

I wonder how common this is, that people on both ends of the spectrum purposefully gravitate toward the opposite end so as to produce children in the middle.

jubilance1922 · #3 10-30-2006, 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by southernelle25

I wonder how common this is, that people on both ends of the spectrum purposefully gravitate toward the opposite end so as to produce children in the middle.

I know my parents did...my mom is very light and my father is very dark...All of us kids get darker as you go from oldest to youngest.

My father grew up during the Civil Rights era and "Black is beautiful" so I don't feel that I have a color complex. I love my brown-skinned self, and I love all the shades that we come in. I don't gravitate towards strictly light-skinned or dark-skinned men.

DSTCHAOS · #4 10-30-2006, 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by southernelle25

I wonder how common this is, that people on both ends of the spectrum purposefully gravitate toward the opposite end so as to produce children in the middle.

If people choose their mates based on that logic then they are idiots.

I remember this brown skin dude I knew who had finely textured hair and light eyes. Someone walked up to him, rubbed his hair and said "you're good for breeding."

black_princess · #5 10-30-2006, 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

If people choose their mates based on that logic then they are idiots.

I remember this brown skin dude I knew who had finely textured hair and light eyes. Someone walked up to him, rubbed his hair and said "you're good for breeding."

what did he say . .. was he totally offended or did he think that was a complement?

DSTCHAOS · #6 10-30-2006, 02:29 PM

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what did he say . .. was he totally offended or did he think that was a complement?

He thought it was a compliment, which is what a lot of unfortunate black people think.

black_princess · #7 10-30-2006, 02:48 PM

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He thought it was a compliment, which is what a lot of unfortunate black people think.

Wow . . that's why I asked . . I could see how some people might take that as a compliment and get their heads all gassed up . .that's sad. Breeding of all things . . . like he was some type of animal or something

This question is for everyone, if you could alter you complexion (lighter if you are a dark-skinned or vice versa) would you? I just finished a book called "The Diary of an Ugly Duckling" and in it a young woman who was tired of being, in her words, "fat,black,& ugly" enters a reality makeover show where they offer to lighten her skin (among other things) so she can resemble her other lighter family members. I just womder how many of you would be willing? When I was younger I might have answered yes to this, (elementary school was rough) but now I really like my almond chocolate and so do the men folk

mccoyred · #8 10-30-2006, 03:32 PM

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This question is for everyone, if you could alter you complexion (lighter if you are a dark-skinned or vice versa) would you? I just finished a book called "The Diary of an Ugly Duckling" and in it a young woman who was tired of being, in her words, "fat,black,& ugly" enters a reality makeover show where they offer to lighten her skin (among other things) so she can resemble her other lighter family members. I just womder how many of you would be willing? When I was younger I might have answered yes to this, (elementary school was rough) but now I really like my almond chocolate and so do the men folk

I recently read that book myself. The ending was....interesting!

However, if I had to choose, I would be DARKER than my already chocolate self. I think blue black folks have beautiful skin color, especially when they have an even tone. Unfortunately, sometimes you get bright pink gums, very pink outer lips and rheumy yellow eyes on some very dark folks that make them look strange. However, I have seen many very pretty (by skin tone) black folks, my cousin being one.

Kimmie1913 · #9 10-30-2006, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by black_princess

Wow . . that's why I asked . . I could see how some people might take that as a compliment and get their heads all gassed up . .that's sad. Breeding of all things . . . like he was some type of animal or something

This question is for everyone, if you could alter you complexion (lighter if you are a dark-skinned or vice versa) would you? I just finished a book called "The Diary of an Ugly Duckling" and in it a young woman who was tired of being, in her words, "fat,black,& ugly" enters a reality makeover show where they offer to lighten her skin (among other things) so she can resemble her other lighter family members. I just womder how many of you would be willing? When I was younger I might have answered yes to this, (elementary school was rough) but now I really like my almond chocolate and so do the men folk

Being extremely fair, I always wanted to be darker as a child. In fact, the darker, the better. Now I have matured enough to accept me for me and am comfortable in this beautiful pale skin of mine. Yeah, it still pisses me off when people think I am white, or Latina or mixed or whatever, but as long as it is healthy, clear, even and smooth I can't complain.

southernelle25 · #10 10-30-2006, 04:59 PM

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Originally Posted by black_princess

Wow . . that's why I asked . . I could see how some people might take that as a compliment and get their heads all gassed up . .that's sad. Breeding of all things . . . like he was some type of animal or something

This question is for everyone, if you could alter you complexion (lighter if you are a dark-skinned or vice versa) would you? I just finished a book called "The Diary of an Ugly Duckling" and in it a young woman who was tired of being, in her words, "fat,black,& ugly" enters a reality makeover show where they offer to lighten her skin (among other things) so she can resemble her other lighter family members. I just womder how many of you would be willing? When I was younger I might have answered yes to this, (elementary school was rough) but now I really like my almond chocolate and so do the men folk

Sounds interesting. I always felt blessed to be medium toned. "I am the bag", I say. lol I would not want to be much lighter or much darker, so to answer your question: no. However, I would not mind being a brighter tan color or a darker bronze... basically, a slight variation of my own skin tone in either direction.

DSTCHAOS · #11 10-30-2006, 06:29 PM

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Originally Posted by black_princess

Wow . . that's why I asked . . I could see how some people might take that as a compliment and get their heads all gassed up . .that's sad. Breeding of all things . . . like he was some type of animal or something

This question is for everyone, if you could alter you complexion (lighter if you are a dark-skinned or vice versa) would you? I just finished a book called "The Diary of an Ugly Duckling" and in it a young woman who was tired of being, in her words, "fat,black,& ugly" enters a reality makeover show where they offer to lighten her skin (among other things) so she can resemble her other lighter family members. I just womder how many of you would be willing? When I was younger I might have answered yes to this, (elementary school was rough) but now I really like my almond chocolate and so do the men folk

No, although I do enjoy my summer tans that make me a light golden, which matches my hair color and my eyes.

When I was young, I sometimes wanted to be a little darker. While a lot of people hold lighter skin on a pedastol, and that's annoying to me, the reverse is also true sometimes. A lot of people would make assumptions of me, such as I was a light skinned stuck up beyotch with long hair (that's more true now than it was when I was a child

), that I wasn't black enough, and I even had someone tell me God didn't keep me in the oven long enough. It would sometimes hurt my feelings but I tried to remember that this "reverse" is far less common than what black people with darker complexions and more dominant features have been going through for years. I also had to remind black folk who prejudged me that lighter skin may make many white folks more comfortable but it didn't keep some blacks from getting hosed down or attacked by dogs during the Civil Rights Movement--not to mention how Huey P. Newton was one of the "blackest" yellow bruthas I've ever known.

PrettyBoy · #12 11-07-2006, 10:01 PM

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Originally Posted by black_princess

Wow . . that's why I asked . . I could see how some people might take that as a compliment and get their heads all gassed up . .that's sad. Breeding of all things . . . like he was some type of animal or something

This question is for everyone, if you could alter you complexion (lighter if you are a dark-skinned or vice versa) would you? I just finished a book called "The Diary of an Ugly Duckling" and in it a young woman who was tired of being, in her words, "fat,black,& ugly" enters a reality makeover show where they offer to lighten her skin (among other things) so she can resemble her other lighter family members. I just womder how many of you would be willing? When I was younger I might have answered yes to this, (elementary school was rough) but now I really like my almond chocolate and so do the men folk

I'm happy with my complexion. I wouldn't change the way I look. The only thing I don't like is that people think I'm everything except black. Both my parents are black.

PrettyBoy · #13 11-07-2006, 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

If people choose their mates based on that logic then they are idiots.

I remember this brown skin dude I knew who had finely textured hair and light eyes. Someone walked up to him, rubbed his hair and said "you're good for breeding."

When I was in highschool some lady did that to me. She said "Nice head of hair" feeling it at the same time.

DSTCHAOS · #14 11-07-2006, 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

When I was in highschool some lady did that to me. She said "Nice head of hair" feeling it at the same time.

Maybe she was humored by your Jackson 5 'fro.

PrettyBoy · #15 11-07-2006, 10:23 PM

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Maybe she was humored by your Jackson 5 'fro.

LOL. Would you stop it!