DARK/LIGHT...SKIN COLOR.........Is this still an issue? Let's be honest Sorors & SF'

KAY10 · #1 10-13-2006, 11:58 PM

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The sad part is when outside people look at you, they still fall into those stereotypes..... oh you're light, I take it you're a member of XYZ or you're a member of XYZ, you were the darkest on your line huh? CRAZY....

I feel ya. It is sad. Both my parents are from the south too. My father is dark and my mom is light.
Have you ever heard of the Willie Lynch theory? Before the Civil War Willie Lynch wrote a letter and it was basically a letter to keep blacks separate. That part of the whole light/dark thing. It's in that book I was talking about.

cjoanell · #2 10-14-2006, 10:08 AM

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I feel ya. It is sad. Both my parents are from the south too. My father is dark and my mom is light.
Have you ever heard of the Willie Lynch theory? Before the Civil War Willie Lynch wrote a letter and it was basically a letter to keep blacks separate. That part of the whole light/dark thing. It's in that book I was talking about.

Mom B'ham and Dad Orangeburg, S.C..... I know all about it.

PrettyBoy · #3 10-15-2006, 12:22 AM

I don't really think African American fraternities and sororities are still like this, but I know years ago XYZ sorority had a test called the brown paper bag test. If an interest was darker than the brown paper bag she would not have a chance of getting selected. That made me wonder if greek organizations made this problem worse. I don't think it's like that now, at least I would hope not.

nonchalant · #4 10-15-2006, 01:18 PM

I believe this is still an issue. Most of this stems from peoples upbringing as well as their surroundings. As stated in a previous thread, I was raised to think light is right. There isn't a need to put a paper bag next to me, for my mother didn't allow us to play in the daylight. Once you grow and become educated and open-minded, you realize those things were petty. I still love my light skinned pretty boys over the chocolate men. Now that's just a personal preference.

cjoanell · #5 10-16-2006, 02:07 PM

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I believe this is still an issue. Most of this stems from peoples upbringing as well as their surroundings. As stated in a previous thread, I was raised to think light is right. There isn't a need to put a paper bag next to me, for my mother didn't allow us to play in the daylight. Once you grow and become educated and open-minded, you realize those things were petty. I still love my light skinned pretty boys over the chocolate men. Now that's just a personal preference.

PrettyBoy · #6 10-18-2006, 02:35 AM

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LOL

PrettyBoy · #7 10-18-2006, 02:33 AM

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I believe this is still an issue. Most of this stems from peoples upbringing as well as their surroundings. As stated in a previous thread, I was raised to think light is right. There isn't a need to put a paper bag next to me, for my mother didn't allow us to play in the daylight. Once you grow and become educated and open-minded, you realize those things were petty. I still love my light skinned pretty boys over the chocolate men. Now that's just a personal preference.

Was your mom from the South? It seems like that's where a lot of this stuff is still happening.

DSTCHAOS · #8 10-18-2006, 09:43 AM

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Was your mom from the South? It seems like that's where a lot of this stuff is still happening.

Looks are very deceiving.

PrettyBoy · #9 10-20-2006, 01:35 AM

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Looks are very deceiving.

So, so true.

nonchalant · #10 10-28-2006, 11:46 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Was your mom from the South? It seems like that's where a lot of this stuff is still happening.

Yes. She was born and raised in Alabama.

black_princess · #11 10-29-2006, 01:33 AM

Just to weigh in. . .I have a friend who is my age (22) and from the Northeast. She says that her mother told her from a young age that she should not bring home any dark-skined men, especially if they are (in her words) "blue -black" . She told my friend that she won't be able to see her kids if she does. Mind you, my friend, her mother and my friends father are not fair skinned. So I just find the whole situation funny and sad at the same time.

Today, my friend says that she just seems to be drawn to lighter side, but in her mind doesn't have a preference. She just happens not to meet any darker men. Also, whenerver she is describing a handsome man you can definately hear the passion in her voice when its a light skinned man as compared to a darker man. I'm not saying that anything's wrong if she has this preference, I just wonder how different would her choices be if mom hadn't planted those early seeds.