WTF she joined my sorority?!

sdsuchelle · #1 10-09-2006, 01:00 AM

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Originally Posted by LatinaAlumna

I am not saying that this girl was in the right for hooking up with your boyfriend, but the blame is just as much HIS. He could have turned her down or chosen not to pursue her. I don't think it's right to sabotage her chances of joining a sorority because your boyfriend chose to cheat on you. I think you should just let it go unless she tries to join your particular chapter.

I know -- I blame him a LOT more, and I would be completely fine with the girl if she wasn't a complete stalker psycho. Whenever I randomly see him or her, I try to be nice, but she's just a total bitch to me.

I don't feel that she would be an asset to the sorority - just a problem.

adpiucf · #2 10-09-2006, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by sdsuchelle

I don't feel that she would be an asset to the sorority - just a problem.

Then you are within your rights to write the no-rec and send it in... maybe the rest of this discussion belongs in Dating and Relationships.

AnchorAlumna · #3 10-09-2006, 12:16 PM

Michelle,
I occasionally have to write a no rec on somebody. I check the box for "I do not recommend" and attach a Post-It note that says "PLEASE CALL ME FOR DETAILS." That way there is nothing written that could come back to haunt you or the chapter later. If they do not call, call them. (No, I would not e-mail - lingering e-mails are as bad as something written.) When you talk to them, you can outline your reasons. OR you can ask a fellow ADPi to write the rec. Drinking and smoking pot may be harmless to some people, but it's a risk a chapter would take in pledging this person.
And to Tom and you guys, you may think it's no big deal if somebody joins another chapter of your fraternity, but sororities have organization-wide ties and events that may mean you could run into this person the rest of your life.

LatinaAlumna · #4 10-09-2006, 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

And to Tom and you guys, you may think it's no big deal if somebody joins another chapter of your fraternity, but sororities have organization-wide ties and events that may mean you could run into this person the rest of your life.

Yes, I think most of us on this board know that.

However, we ALL have to run into people we don't like, all the time! I don't think this is worth all the worry. Perhaps the girl doesn't even meet the requirements to rush any sorority in the first place. Maybe she doesn't want to join a sorority at all.

PhrozenGod01 · #5 10-09-2006, 06:59 PM

This seems like something that a good prank could solve...

AnchorAlumna · #6 10-10-2006, 12:26 AM

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Originally Posted by LatinaAlumna

Yes, I think most of us on this board know that.

However, we ALL have to run into people we don't like, all the time! I don't think this is worth all the worry. Perhaps the girl doesn't even meet the requirements to rush any sorority in the first place. Maybe she doesn't want to join a sorority at all.

Why take the chance?