WTF she joined my sorority?!

[LionTamer]

I was part of a membership group after college. One of the girls who my sorority chapter had disaffiliated for psycho behavior applied for membership (which was run a lot like rush - complete with parties, reccs and membership selection). I was appalled - I had seen how she had torn our sorority apart with her behavior.

I was concerned that the other members wouldn't believe me when I told them that this person was an extremely disruptive influence. Fortunately, one of her co-workers spoke up first, saying exactly what I was going to say - that she would be a disruptive influence. Someone else who had encountered her in yet another social circle described several disturbing incidents, and there was very little argument ("well, I thought she was very outgoing and interesting, but if all three of you know her and see potential problems...")

I was concerned that the girl would blame me, but fortunately, she opted to go skiing on the day we did final interviews and selection, so she was out on that technicality. In other cases, we might have made an exception (our group accepted pretty much anyone who was willing to pitch in and wasn't disruptive), but 3 people's collective experience with her gave the membership committee reason NOT to bend the rules.

The problem is that very often psychos can come off as charming, vivacious, outgoing, etc, and people are taken in -- so you can't always assume the members will pick up that she's a potential Drama Queen.