WTF she joined my sorority?!

[Tom Earp]

If I am correct, this must have been a BF/GF H S thing as her Ex BF just joined SN.

If this person is so bad, I think the Chapter would have some smart women in it and will catch on very quickly.

Crying wolf can make you look like a former G F who carrys a grudge.

If you contact said chapter, I would suggest that you only say be careful of this girl and leave it at that.

If it is not your chapter, then so what? If she does get in, she is only one person out of the many who are members.

[Xidelt]

Originally Posted by Tom Earp

If I am correct, this must have been a BF/GF H S thing as her Ex BF just joined SN.

If this person is so bad, I think the Chapter would have some smart women in it and will catch on very quickly.

Crying wolf can make you look like a former G F who carrys a grudge.

If you contact said chapter, I would suggest that you only say be careful of this girl and leave it at that.

If it is not your chapter, then so what? If she does get in, she is only one person out of the many who are members.

Tom Earp: Creeping everybody out in yet another sorority thread...

[tunatartare]

mind if I use that in my signature?

[Xidelt]

Originally Posted by KLPDaisy

mind if I use that in my signature?

Yes! I'm so honored!

[DolphinChicaDDD]

I once wrote a letter about someone I knew was going through recruitment. I knew her from when I was teaching at her high school (obviously, I'm about 5 years older than her) and she was not a nice person(and she also plagurized the heck outta a paper). She went to my alma matter, which made my situation a bit different, but I called the recruitment chair of my sorority said who I was, and just talked to her. I said she may have changed from between grad hs in June and going through recruitment in Jan, but this is how she acted in the past.

In the end, after meeting and talking with her, she wasn't invited back to the second round. She went on to become a member of another organization, and shes been a bit wild and overly dramatic, so in the end my chapter is glad I called.

If you feel that strongly about someone, then send an email. If the recruitment chair (or the equivelent) is willing to listen, then speak your truth. But leave out any personal feelings. Just state the facts.

[adpiucf]

Sdsuchelle,

Go to the ADPi website and download the Potential New Member profile. Fill it out with the girls' name where it requests PNM name and check off the box that says "I do not recommend this woman for membership." Then mail it to the RIM at the university she is attending. That's all. Any of us can do this on our rec forms-- aka a "no rec." Collegians who are not attending the same school can submit recs and "no recs" in many sororities, ADPi being one of those. Then put her out of your head and drop him as a friend b/c he clearly isn't a good friend to you.

[Tippiechick]

Who cares what people think. If you hate her or would be embarassed to call her a sister, no rec her. It's simple and easy.

[sdsuchelle]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Sdsuchelle,

Go to the ADPi website and download the Potential New Member profile. Fill it out with the girls' name where it requests PNM name and check off the box that says "I do not recommend this woman for membership." Then mail it to the RIM at the university she is attending. That's all. Any of us can do this on our rec forms-- aka a "no rec." Collegians who are not attending the same school can submit recs and "no recs" in many sororities, ADPi being one of those. Then put her out of your head and drop him as a friend b/c he clearly isn't a good friend to you.

I actually saw the rec form but was kind of confused about it, since it had SO many fields for information on PNMs. Would I just fill out her name and check "no rec" and leave everything else blank? I mean, I have no idea what her address/phone number/GPA is.

Yeah, I actually stopped talking to him. When I asked him why he wasn't approving my comments on Myspace and he told me it was because she was jealous of me, he told me "just leave me a comment saying something like, 'Oh, Ana and you are so cute together, she is so pretty!' and she'll get over it."

... needless to say I realized having a friendship with him wasn't all that important to me anymore. Haha.

Oh, and Tom -- the guy and I dated in HS and part of college. We're both juniors now, and she's a freshman.

[chitownxo]

Originally Posted by Tom Earp

If I am correct, this must have been a BF/GF H S thing as her Ex BF just joined SN.

If this person is so bad, I think the Chapter would have some smart women in it and will catch on very quickly.

Crying wolf can make you look like a former G F who carrys a grudge.

If you contact said chapter, I would suggest that you only say be careful of this girl and leave it at that.

If it is not your chapter, then so what? If she does get in, she is only one person out of the many who are members.

1) She's not "crying wolf." She has first-hand knowledge of less-than-desirable behavior. Nor is she carrying a grudge. She has made her peace with her ex and moved on.

2) It may not be her chapter, but it is her sisterhood. I see nothing wrong with her, should this lady (for lack of a better term) go through recruitment, giving her sisters a heads up. In these overly litigious days, you cannot be too careful.

3) It would be pretty difficult to just say "be careful of this girl." The members of the other chapter would, in all probability, want to know why. My organization has a procedure for informing other chapters of pnms would could be potential risk management issues; I would not be surprised to find out that ADPi has a similar system.

4) Recruitment can be hectic, and most everyone is on her best behavior. I highly doubt that this girl would tell sorority members during recruitment that her hobbies include harassing her boyfriend's ex-girlfriends and using marijuana on a non-medicinal basis. If she's crazy enough to let that slip, whether or not sdsushelle contacts that chapter becomes a non-issue. You're always better off safe rather than sorry.