What do you feel like saying, right now?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Never heard of that one. You’ve never talked about it. Is that one a jalopy like that old MG you have? I remember that thing looking like a Model T.

It’s a 1964. My MG is a 1948.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

So college ex had repeated patterns of cheating then? You said you look at repeated patterns, then act. And then you said wrongful convictions happen when you assume first, right? When I asked you if you caught dude cheating, you said no, but went off of some chick leaving a vmail on his phone, then dropped all his shit off he got you at his crib (funniest story on the planet) LOL! You assumed, right? You said you didn’t talk about it or ask dude about it you just dumped him quick. Dude probably came out the next day, saw the bag, looked inside and said WTF? LMAO! For real though, he either cheated several times and you knew, but stayed, the vmail hit a last straw, or you assumed, which contradicts your post.

lol
Several times? Umm.. I don’t do charity work on guys. You’re confusing me with one of those “I can fix him” girls. I’ve never been the type to do rehab projects or sequel seasons of disrespect. One season of bad writing, and I cancel the show. I’m more of a one episode and done type.

And the voicemail wasn’t a warning shot, it was a verdict. I didn’t need to catch him twice to know what once already proved. That wasn’t an assumption, that was confirmation. Her voicemail wasn’t some innocent “hey bro, call me back” message, it was… let’s just say, more like career ending evidence, lol.

So no, I didn’t need a jury, just a spine. I didn’t ask for explanations because liars rehearse those. I dropped off the bag of gifts, kept my peace, and moved on. Case closed. When I’m in a relationship, guys learn fast that I’m not a therapist, I’m the lesson. I did have to “fix” my hubby a little, but he was SO totally worth it. Kind of like polishing my masterpiece, lol.

Dot connecting and discernment are two of the best friends I’ve ever had in choosing a partner. If logic, discernment, and accountability guided justice the way they guide me personally, this country wouldn’t be living in such a corrupt circus. I am too evolved for America’s dysfunction.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

It’s a 1964. My MG is a 1948.

I looked it up. I see different ones. Which one is yours?

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

lol
Several times? Umm.. I don’t do charity work on guys. You’re confusing me with one of those “I can fix him” girls. I’ve never been the type to do rehab projects or sequel seasons of disrespect. One season of bad writing, and I cancel the show. I’m more of a one episode and done type.

And the voicemail wasn’t a warning shot, it was a verdict. I didn’t need to catch him twice to know what once already proved. That wasn’t an assumption, that was confirmation. Her voicemail wasn’t some innocent “hey bro, call me back” message, it was… let’s just say, more like career ending evidence, lol.

So no, I didn’t need a jury, just a spine. I didn’t ask for explanations because liars rehearse those. I dropped off the bag of gifts, kept my peace, and moved on. Case closed. When I’m in a relationship, guys learn fast that I’m not a therapist, I’m the lesson. I did have to “fix” my hubby a little, but he was SO totally worth it. Kind of like polishing my masterpiece, lol.

Dot connecting and discernment are two of the best friends I’ve ever had in choosing a partner. If logic, discernment, and accountability guided justice the way they guide me personally, this country wouldn’t be living in such a corrupt circus. I am too evolved for America’s dysfunction.

Fair enough. But y’all do always think y’all can fix dudes. You got a good one and still call yourself polishing up rough edges LOL! I don’t know why chicks do that. Dudes hate that.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Fair enough. But y’all do always think y’all can fix dudes. You got a good one and still call yourself polishing up rough edges LOL! I don’t know why chicks do that. Dudes hate that.

Well, I think a lot of us do fall into the “I can fix him” phase at least once. But the truth is, you can’t fix a guy, you can only support what’s already in him. So like, if a guy already has ambition, discipline, and kindness, smart women will mirror and encourage those things. But if he’s empty or chaotic inside, she can’t plant what isn’t there, although some really dumb ones will try.

There’s a big difference between wanting to change someone and wanting to grow with them. Fixing comes from control. Growth comes from belief.

When I said “polish,” I didn’t mean I was working on a project (guys like that are awful, lol). I meant we both learned how to bring out the best in each other without losing who we already were. The right woman doesn’t rewire a guy, she sharpens what’s already there. That’s the kind of “fixing” I meant. Like refining what was already good or like a clearer version of the same guy. Kind of like nudging him into seeing his strengths instead of doubting them. Know what I mean? That kind of thing.

I just think relationships are about recognition, not reconstruction.