Advice Needed

[DeltaBetaBaby]

I assure you that being in one of those other two chapters is not that different from being in your own chapter. Every chapter has great times and drama and so on. From the outside, you are only seeing all the good stuff, but that's not reality, especially if you are getting a lot of information from social media. You're comparing your entire life to someone else's highlight reel.

[KDCat]

I was really homesick my first semester of college. It got better.

Here's my advice: Give it a whole year at Mizzou, before you decide to transfer out. Stay in your sorority. Keep taking classes. When you get to the end of spring semester, you'll know more about Mizzou and your sorority and whether you want to stay there. It takes a little bit to get settled and some us (ME!) adjust more slowly than others.

[maconmagnolia]

Originally Posted by KDCat

I was really homesick my first semester of college. It got better.

Here's my advice: Give it a whole year at Mizzou, before you decide to transfer out. Stay in your sorority. Keep taking classes. When you get to the end of spring semester, you'll know more about Mizzou and your sorority and whether you want to stay there. It takes a little bit to get settled and some us (ME!) adjust more slowly than others.

I agree. I remember feeling similar to you the first semester of my freshman year. It seemed like everyone in my chapter had close friends except for me. I didn't make good, solid friends in my chapter until second semester of my freshman year and first semester of my sophomore year. Those girls have stuck with me ever since and we are still the best of friends! In a large chapter, it can take awhile to find your niche. Now, looking back, I am so glad that I stuck with it. I could not be happier with my sorority and my sisters.

I'm a current student at Mizzou, so please feel free to send me a private message if you would like more specific advice. I'd love to talk to you and help you in any way that I can.

[GratefulGramma]

Beloved Granddaughter begged her mother every week, for her first semester; please let me transfer closer to home (she is only two hours away), her mom would tell her she had to last one year, and then she and I would shed tears because we missed her worse than she missed us but we knew she needed to stay where she was. The second semester was better, but there were still episodes of "I want to come home and commute". NO.

She's a junior now, has made so very many friends, is active in her sorority, and can't imagine being anywhere else. She still gets homesick and thinks the breaks aren't quite long enough, but she loves her school and her sisters. Her sorority wasn't really her first choice either, but it is now.

Hang in there. That first semester is like being in a totally different world.

[33girl]

There's a big difference between being friends with someone and being their sister. The women in those chapters might have liked you fine as a person but that unexplainable something that makes you fit with the sorority wasn't there or wasn't in great enough amount. As for "clicking" with members of those groups, if they're recent initiates like yourself, they had no input on membership selection.

I don't want to say something dramatic like those two groups are dead to you, but you can't go through life wanting something you can't have, unless you enjoy being miserable.

Mizzou chapters and the school are huge. Unless it's because of academics or $, give the school and the sorority another semester.