Is it all about looks?

[NutBrnHair]

No, usually, it's about the whole package. A good personal presentation, plus a good record on paper -- grades, activities, community service, etc.

[ree-Xi]

I am taking recruitment out of the equation for a moment and speaking to the bigger issue (no pun intended):

If you are bigger than you want to be, even if you have health problems, and if you desire to work on your body, there is always something you can do to work your shape and your health.

- Add more movement to your daily routine.
- Add in 20 minutes of exercise, several days per week. Walking is a fine exercise, as long as you're challenging yourself with elevation, pace, etc.
- Drink more water
- Count calories. We often overestimate what we eat by up to a third! Just the simple act of counting makes you aware of what you are eating.
- Toning what you have can make you appear slimmer. Muscles are denser than fat.

If you so desire, you can lose 17-34 pounds SAFELY by the third week of August (not sure when recruitment is). That's 1-2 pounds per week.

I'm not saying you have to - you may be perfectly happy at your current weight - but it does seem to bother you.

If nothing else, you'll have given yourself a better state of health, perhaps built more confidence, and have accomplished a great goal.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

I am taking recruitment out of the equation for a moment and speaking to the bigger issue (no pun intended):

If you are bigger than you want to be, even if you have health problems, and if you desire to work on your body, there is always something you can do to work your shape and your health.

- Add more movement to your daily routine.
- Add in 20 minutes of exercise, several days per week. Walking is a fine exercise, as long as you're challenging yourself with elevation, pace, etc.
- Drink more water
- Count calories. We often overestimate what we eat by up to a third! Just the simple act of counting makes you aware of what you are eating.
- Toning what you have can make you appear slimmer. Muscles are denser than fat.

If you so desire, you can lose 17-34 pounds SAFELY by the third week of August (not sure when recruitment is). That's 1-2 pounds per week.

I'm not saying you have to - you may be perfectly happy at your current weight - but it does seem to bother you.

If nothing else, you'll have given yourself a better state of health, perhaps built more confidence, and have accomplished a great goal.

I say this with a big glass of water sitting next to me, after having just journaled my lunch (meaning I'm not denying what you are saying is 100% da troof):
Don't give overweight people advice on how to lose weight. It does little more than waste your time and frustrate them. Overweight people mentally know how to lose weight (or can Google 77543345 websites on the subject, most of which will start with all of the info in your post) - the issue is being in the right place in your life to do it. You have to decide that it's the right time for you, and you have to WANT it bad enough for yourself-not for a friend, boyfriend, or sorority. Then is the only time it will happen.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by mtsugreekchic

It seems that there are fat sororities, hot sororities, butch sororities...

For this is the holy trifecta of sorority life.

Originally Posted by mtsugreekchic

I hate that I came here to get advice and learn about sororities and recruitment and god forbid, I ask a question and I get anything but answers.

You want your ball back now or later?

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Don't give overweight people advice on how to lose weight. It does little more than waste your time and frustrate them. Overweight people mentally know how to lose weight (or can Google 77543345 websites on the subject, most of which will start with all of the info in your post) - the issue is being in the right place in your life to do it. You have to decide that it's the right time for you, and you have to WANT it bad enough for yourself-not for a friend, boyfriend, or sorority. Then is the only time it will happen.

Thanks for taking the post out my fingertips.

OP doesnt allude that she's unhappy about her size, though it's totally possible. If she were to lose this 30someodd lbs you suggested, according to you, she'd only be doing it for rush. I mean, you could fight superficial with superficial, but really, your advice is really unwarranted.

[Regina.George]

Originally Posted by NutBrnHair

No, usually, it's about the whole package. A good personal presentation, plus a good record on paper -- grades, activities, community service, etc.

Rainbows and lollipops. You can have all of those things and more but if you're obese or unattractive you're not getting a bid from my chapter. There are many chapters where this matters as well as many where it doesn't. There. I said it. Deal.

[apple15675]

Originally Posted by Regina.George

Rainbows and lollipops. You can have all of those things and more but if you're obese or unattractive you're not getting a bid from my chapter. There are many chapters where this matters as well as many where it doesn't. There. I said it. Deal.

Not nice. But true.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by NutBrnHair

No, usually, it's about the whole package. A good personal presentation, plus a good record on paper -- grades, activities, community service, etc.

That really only applies if you go through rush at a school which uses recs and resumes heavily and has to cut lots of people, fast. Not all do.

OP - you're overweight. Okeefenokee. Have the best wardrobe you can, killer shoes, and make sure your hair and makeup is perfection. Go into rush with a positive attitude - about ALL the sororities and about yourself.

But DO NOT say things like:

Originally Posted by mtsugreekchic

I'm not being presumptuous. I want to be greek, eventually. I am interested in the greek life and I know that if I work hard enough, I will get into a sorority.

It's kind of like a dude walking up to you that you have no interest in and saying "I don't care what you say, we WILL be together." This decision isn't up to you. It's up to the women who are already members. Getting into a sorority is not like getting a 4.0.