I do not like my chapter...

[tootiepie2]

Also after participting in recruitment as an active you might feel better and more bonded with some of the sisters. You will be spending a lot of time together during that week and depending on your school the week before. It really brings people together.

[tiana01]

Originally Posted by excelblue

Has being on committees exposed you to things like those, or has it just mostly been business as usual and lunches that end after an hour?

Actual its the social commitee so its really relaxed and last for a a few hours but I enjoy it! I do not even notice the time.

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

Also, depending on your sorority, the sisters at the transfer school may vote against accepting your affiliation. Then you'd have no sorority to be active with on campus at all.

Yes, I was aware of this also!

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I would stop blaming others and think of how I may contribute to the tone of the chapter. I doubt that you feel isolated from the chapter due to no fault of your own. That's not usually how it works. Even complaining to us (and probably others), wanting to transfer, and saying that you're giving it one more year sets a tone that others can probably feel.

What I suggest: Relaxing and letting things flow as they will; and not bad mouthing the chapter to other people.

Things that the chapter can discuss doing (not based on your complaints): sisterhood retreats; discuss membership and sisterhood at the chapter meetings; plan a really fun event together; plan a service event together. You may be doing these things but their success requires equal participation and people being open to each other.

It's important to remember that sometimes college students are going to act like silly people because they're young. But, silly and stupid are not exclusive to the members of your chapter; and they don't end when you graduate from college. Be realistic about what you expect. And don't treat others as though you are above the influence and they're disappointing you.

[QUOTE=DrPhil;2041436]Just as I thought, the real issue isn't your sorority. The real issue is you. QUOTE]

1) I do NOT blame my chapter for my dislike! They have put as much effort as I have! Its more like i am not clicking with the girls so far and vice versa. Like KSUViolet said maybe i just have to live in to be closer! Which I am next year! And even this has gotten me closer to some girls.

2) I feel that I have not Bad mouthed my chapter. I just said I am not close to anyone.

3) Our chapter already does all thosethings you listed! Even I have said ideas for sisterhoods.

4) Im not expecting to be BFF instantly but atleast be more than an associate. Also i do not treat my chapter like i am dissappointed in them when they day ends they are still my sisters.

Originally Posted by tootiepie2

Also after participting in recruitment as an active you might feel better and more bonded with some of the sisters. You will be spending a lot of time together during that week and depending on your school the week before. It really brings people together.

I have gone through recruitment as an active.

[33girl]

Do you go over to the house just to hang out - no meetings or anything involved?

If you're with someone else and see a sister sitting in the student center/cafeteria/lobby of a class building, do you automatically go over and say hi to her and introduce your friend, or do you avoid her because you're with someone else? This also applies if you're by yourself.

If you don't do these things you're probably going to continue to be an "in name only" sister.

As far as the transferring, if you have to do so for financial reasons, that's one thing, but if you want to do it to go home for breaks...why do you want to do this? Do you think your HS friends will be there? They most likely have their own lives at college now, as you should have yours.

[truebluekappa08]

I totally understand what you're saying. This isn't your fault, and it isn't your chapter's. It seems like you have really made an effort so far, which is more than a lot of sisters do when they're feeling left out.

If you need to transfer for financial or personal reasons, then you should absolutely try to reaffiliate at your new school and try your best there. However, if you don't need to transfer just yet, i definitely agree with some of the advice on here.

Recruitment as an initiated sister is a totally new experience! it is one of the most memorable bonding experiences of my 4 years. Living in is also a great experience. i lived in the house my sophomore and junior years, and it felt totally different from my freshman year, it was great! Until you move in to the house, and start recruitment, just try and keep doing what you've been doing: making an effort, going to events, and getting to know your sisters. If after all that, it just doesn't work out, then maybe that chapter just isn't for you.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by tiana01

Actual its the social commitee so its really relaxed and last for a a few hours but I enjoy it! I do not even notice the time.


Yes, I was aware of this also!

1) I do NOT blame my chapter for my dislike! They have put as much effort as I have! Its more like i am not clicking with the girls so far and vice versa. Like KSUViolet said maybe i just have to live in to be closer! Which I am next year! And even this has gotten me closer to some girls.

2) I feel that I have not Bad mouthed my chapter. I just said I am not close to anyone.

3) Our chapter already does all thosethings you listed! Even I have said ideas for sisterhoods.

4) Im not expecting to be BFF instantly but atleast be more than an associate. Also i do not treat my chapter like i am dissappointed in them when they day ends they are still my sisters.


I have gone through recruitment as an active.

Welp, you know all of the answers already. There ya go.

I still say that your desire to transfer for financial and home sick reasons can create a tone of "someone PLEASE make me happy" and "I'm only here as long as I can be here" that other sisters may sense.

Also, note that there can be a difference between "I do not like my chapter" and "I'm not close to any of the members...yet." You've already decided that you do not like them. I definitely consider that both a self-fulfilling prophecy and bad mouthing your chapter.