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Originally Posted by 33girl
You're contradicting yourself.
If the specific big/little relationship means as little in the long run as you seem to think, why do they need the "support" of being specifically adopted by someone else? Isn't a chapter full of sisters "support" enough? Isn't the little being "petulant" to want a new big even when she has other family members there to support her?
Let's just say different chapters look at big/little in different ways and let it go at that.
Also, I never saw anything in the OP's post that said she was going to cut her little out of her life. If anything, she seems afraid that the little is going to do that to her.
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We all know that in a big chapter, you can get lost in a sea of sisters. Just because you have an extended "family" does not mean that they are close to you or actually lend you support. If they do, great. My whole point is, don't begrudge your Little if she seeks support from another sister. From what the OP wrote, her Little sister isn't seeking out anything, other sisters are seeking her out. Of course, this is all one sided. When I wrote about cutting her little sister out of her life, I was referring to Raggedy Ann's story and warning the OP that this was not a good way to handle the situation.
I think "Big Sis" is a label. I gets overused, and people allow it to hurt their feelings for no reason. It's only natural that her little sis will seek other sisters to make close relationships with once her Big Sis has left the chapter. Does it really matter that much if she calls her Big Sis or Adopted Big Sis or Pseudo Big Sis or God Big Sis? If she still has a good relationship with her original Big Sis, she can have the best of both worlds. There should be no reason to choose. These are not exclusive relationships. It's not a marriage, and she's not CHEATING.
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