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Originally Posted by 33girl
No one's being militant or looking at someone as a trophy. It's about being rejected - not rejected as part of a sorority, rejected as YOU - for reasons like transferring that are beyond your control.
If you wouldn't be deeply hurt by that, I don't know how else to explain it to you.
To say "oh well, she got a new big, you got a new little, everything's hunky dory" is kind of like saying "oh well, you divorced, he got a new wife, you got a new husband, why all the unnecessary pain?" Maybe that's a little much, but a relationship is a relationship.
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I think I agreed in both of my posts that this can be painful, but comparing it to a marriage is about as ridiculous as you can get. Seriously! The point I am making is that advocating that she should be petulant and demand that her little sis not be "adopted" or cut her off will in the end ruin a friendship that up to this point she values. This has nothing to do with rejection. It has to do with her little sis finding a support system in her chapter once her big sis transferred (whether or not it was avoidable.) Raggedy Ann got a new little sis at her new chapter to find a way to fit in and find a new support system in her new chapter, which was completely understandable. It was unreasonable that her first little sis objected to that. Why can't we be supportive sisters from a distance and realize that our sisters need support at their chapters when we are gone? Yes, it hurts that they find support from other sisters. Get over it. You have to work harder to keep your relationship going at that point, but it is well worth it. I certainly hope the OP takes my advice and keeps her relationship going with her little, no matter what happens at her old chapter. Not EVERYTHING has to do with her.
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