HELP! Big/Little problems :(

[RaggedyAnn]

It really sucks and it happened to me. I transferred to a different university and my grand-little was being initiated the month after school started. I had ordered flowers for her before I left and spent winter break making a little/grandlittle package that I sent before initiation. I also called as soon as school started to see how things were going. FB and email were not an option at this time, but I was taking my responsibilities seriously as a big.

My little and I were pretty close. In fact, one summer I had this overwhelming urge that I needed to call her. I had no idea why. It was July I think and we hadn't spoke all summer. (We lived in different states and long distance calling was pretty expensive at the time.) She had just got back from identifying the body of her cousin/best friend/roommate after a horrible car accident. We just had a connection.

I'm still not sure exactly what happened, but I think my little was jealous because I was taking on a second little. I got involved with the chapter at my second school and recruited my second little at the transfer seminar and she wanted me to be her big.

When she told me she was being adopted by my pledge sister, I was crushed. My other two littles suffered for it, because I never really let myself get that close to them. She just FB friended me a year ago, after 15 years. I accepted, but neither of us have posted on each other's wall to this day.

Pseudo or God-Bigs are a great alternative. I have a God-Big, because my Big decided she doesn't want anything to do with the sorority. I also have a Second Big from my second chapter, because I needed someone I could turn to when some things went haywire, but I never replaced my Big, even though she decided to leave. I still hope some day she will come around. I look for her on FB sometimes and am friends with by Grand Big and Great Grand Big.

The reason why I'm making this long post is so that you know you're not alone. It sucks and there is nothing you can do about it. Feel free to PM me anytime for moral support. Those who have never gone through this have no idea how painful it actually can be.